I would like to be an egg donor. My daughter has brought so much joy to my life and I want to help provide that to other families. The only problem I have is that I will be giving up a child that is biologically mine. I don't only want to meet the parents but I want to be a part of the child's life and I want them to know that I am biologically their mother and that I only gave them up so that thier new parents could be happy. Do you think I am wrong for wanting this?
2006-07-13 12:23:05 · 13 answers · asked by Caitlyn's Mommy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I am not asking to be a parent to the child. Only to be a part of their life (ie. family friend) and then when they are old enough to understand then tell them that I am their biological mother.
2006-07-13 12:31:31 · update #1
no it is normal. im sure the new parents would enjoy having you a part of their life. no child can have enough adults to love and care for them.
by the way my 10 month old daughter is named caitlyn
2006-07-13 12:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to be an egg donor that is good however you should stay out of the life of the parents that receive it. If you don't agree on the methods they use in raising the child it will cause conflict in you and you won't be able to do anything about it. A man who donates sperm does not get involved with the family and neither should the women who donates the egg. Think hard before you do this as it seems that you are very strong of desire. Even if they say you can they can change their mind after the child is born if they want to. Donate to be kind but don't expect anything in return.
2006-07-13 19:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by # one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think you are wrong. But you do realize that having you in that child's life can cause some emotional damage. When you donate a sperm or an egg you are giving up that chance to be the parent to the child. Also the parents to whom you are donating the egg to might not want you in the child's life.
If you can not differentiate yourself from the chance the egg becomes a baby and you want to be part of this child's life you should think twice about donating. You gave up the egg so technically it is no longer your child and you most likely have no rights to the child.
2006-07-13 19:29:22 · answer #3 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally i don't think that's right. I know that you feel like its your child, and the DNA may say that it is, but you will not be carrying the child, and it isn't fair to the "parents" that you do that. I think that maybe being an egg donor isn't right for you, you should look into be a surrogate then the child isn't your at all but you have helping to give a family a child, and most of the time they are willing to let you see the child.
2006-07-13 19:40:44 · answer #4 · answered by fandj4ever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think if you feel this way you shouldnt do it, the reason they choose egg donors is so they can have the chance to raise it as their own, otherwise they would have just adopted a baby, being an egg donar isnt for everyone, and how do you think you could meet the child but not the parents, the best you can hope for is they tell the child at 18 once you donate your egg you have no rights over it, and they choos based upon genes they are lookin for so they child will look like them
2006-07-13 19:33:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,I think it's wrong.Your donating a egg,not a living child.There also paying you for this service.You don't have any rights to that child once it's concieve.I for one would never ever want you to be a part of that future childs life because I would be thinking that you might try to take this child away from me.I personal don't think that being a egg donor is really for you.Heck,Thats just my opinion.
2006-07-14 02:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by applekiss27 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that really isn't an option for you. If you want to be an egg donor great! but you have to leave that up to the people you are giving your egg to. I don't think you are wrong for wantting this , but again it's not up to you. That's almost like giving up a baby for adoption it has to be an open adoption. Why do you think they pay so much?
you can't do that, like i said, that has to be up to the parents raising the kid. you can't just tell them you are their mother. it will confuse them and maybe hurt them for not knowing the truth.
2006-07-13 19:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, you want to do this for your own selfish reasons. think of how the other family and the child would feel. i wouldn't want to have a child from another woman who took the point of view you do. you don't want o be an active parent, but have all the access of a parent. that;s not what egg donation is about.
2006-07-13 19:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think your wrong. Donor is the key word and I know they pay you for the eggs. I don't mean to sound cold but you can't have your egg and eat it too.
2006-07-13 19:28:53 · answer #9 · answered by mtd29485 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no i don't think that is wrong I'm adopted and i only wish that my parent would have let my birth mom be apart of my life but i have to track her down if i want to see her
2006-07-13 19:30:04 · answer #10 · answered by act3456 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋