i think my girl may be pregnant....?

Question

i am 23 she is 19, been seeing each other for a few month, i think she may be preg, period is 2 days late (test 2mo) is on the pill... what should i/we do, dont think were ready for this altho we both hold good jobs... Help :(

Answer 1

It's only been 2 days? Settle down. I've been with girls that ended up not even having a period for like a month (after she was supposed to have it). Wait a while, then get a test for like $10 at Wal-Mart.

Answer 2

I think you two should do what's best for the baby. If in fact she is pregnant and you decide to keep the baby, then there are a lot of things you should consider 1st. A baby requires 2 mature parents who are ready and willing to put their life on hold for the sake of the child. So ask yourself, are you ready to give up your leisure time with your friends, how about those 2:00 AM feedings (no sleep) and what about daycare? And do you love her? If you answered no to 2 or more of these questions, then adoption wouldn't be a bad idea either. Actually, I think it's a mature thing to do if you realize that you are not ready to be a parent. There are plenty of good families that would love to give your child the life that they deserve if you are not capable yourself. I have 3 children of my own and I had my first 2 when I was 21 and 23. I married their dad, but it wasn't until 6 years later because he decided that although we were parents, he wasn't ready to get married because we still wanted to have fun. I don't resent him for that because he was being honest. I love my kids and they are my reason for being, but if I had to do it all over again, I would've waited until I had my career going 1st. I made my life much more difficult when I had children at such a young age. I had to work full-time, go to school, and be a mom. I do have my bachelor's now, have a great job, and am working on my Master's, but I am now 32 years old so it took me this long to get where I am at. But I really do feel that if you both love each other, you will be fine if you have a baby. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Well find out for sure, if her period is late a home pregnancy test should be accurate by now. If she is positive then you have some decisions to make. Sit down with your girlfriend and figure out your options. Keep in mind, that you do not have to get married for this to work out, hundreds of people have happy children and don't end up being together... so don't let that added pressure influence your decison. This is based on rather or not you can support a child and care for it as it should be cared for. If it helps, write down what you like and don't like about each of your options. Most importantly, give it some time. She can wait a week, it won't hurt her. I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 25, we just had the ultrasound today and found out the baby is a girl... whatever your decision I wish you the best of luck.. it took a long time for us both to be happy with our choice. I'm sure you will make the right choice for you, like I did for me.

Answer 4

A two day miss is not something to phone home about, but definitely spend the dollars and get the peace of mind.

I have had several scares in my past. Periods can be tricky, even for women who are "regular". Counting the days after the expected date is quite an experience...

I have also had a a pregnancy test turn pink while watching it with my girlfriend. It turns your whole life around. Mixed feelings about your future and all. (Two months later the baby was lost and that was even worse.)

Answer 5

I found out two days ago that I'm pregnant. I was on the pill too. I knew after I was a day late, because I am always right on time. It kind of depends. If her cycle fluctuates on a regular basis, wait a little while, she may be fine. If she is as regular as I was then I would definitely go out and buy a pregnancy test, it can't hurt. Women should know their own bodies and know what is normal in terms of their cycle.

Answer 6

Don't worry yet I would start worrying after a few weeks if she is in the pill and she takes it everyday then there should not be any reason to worry. Hey life goes on and some times things happen for a reason ( it did for me). Well i hope everything works out for you in the end. Good luck and dont worry.

Answer 7

You can never be ready for a child, that's just reality. You can have the best jobs and have a great relationship, but you know it will change every aspect of your existence. If one of you is not ready, then that child will be affected forever by that doubt. Give it five days, and buy an early detection test now.

Answer 8

if your girl only two days late, then chances are she is not. but if she is and you are not ready for a baby, then it would be unfair to bring an unwanted baby into the world, that actually you cannot support mentally, you may be able to provide financially, but it is not everything, me and my hubby have three kiddies aged 4-12, and although we don't earn a fortune, the kids have two parents who love and support them in every way we can. but at the end of the day, you should be talking to each other, not to the yahoo answerers. hope things work out for you both,

Answer 9

Just wondering why you're waiting till tommorow? Home pregnancy tests are accurate from the day you're period is due. Some brands are accurate up to four days before. Take a test, its so easy and doesn't have to be early morning either.

Answer 10

well you should really sit down together and talk. It is true that you both are too young.having a Child means that you are no longer a kid. It is okay if you are not ready. I have been there. I decided not to have a child because i was not ready,There are many clinic out there if you both choose not to have it(baby).But on the other hand if you think that its something you are ready for consult your parents and her, inaddition to that seek couselling. Good luck to you both