What am I supposed to do?

Question

I am so sick of my life. My mom is making me so miserable. Is it just a phase? Or something else.... She always blames me for her mistakes, and seems to take all her 'anger' out on me. Well, I'm sick of being blamed. No wonder my self-esteem is so low..I'd rather be dead than have her as a mother. What should I do....?

I am so sick of my life. My mom is making me so miserable. Is it just a phase? Or something else.... She always blames me for her mistakes, and seems to take all her 'anger' out on me. Well, I'm sick of being blamed. No wonder my self-esteem is so low..I'd rather be dead than have her as a mother. What should I do....? [I'm only 13 years old.] I'm 14 next month.

Answer 1

Sorry that your mom is the way she is. Sometimes we parents don't know how to be parents. I have a 13 year old and I know I get on her nerves sometimes. But I also let her know that its ok to express her feelings without being disrespectful. If your mother doesn't change, you will have to. By this i mean motivate your self. Look in th mirror and say, "I am beautiful. I am precious. I will be successful" don't let her issues become your issues. No one is perfect. Maybe she is going through something that she doesn't know how to get help.

Answer 2

You didn't give us many specifics to address. From your information, it seems that your mom is going through some bad times and she blames you. I'm really sorry. Blaming you and taking out her anger on you is wrong. If you feel like you are in danger, please talk with another more mature adult, your dad, grandparents or even a close neighbor or teacher. No one can damage your self-esteem unless you let them. There are some things that we just can't control and our parents fall into that category. You might just need to remind your mom of her role in your life. Tonight, have dinner ready and the house tidy when she comes home from work. Sit down with her and tell her that you are worried about yourself...you might be depressed and that you need her help. I hope she responds with kindness and love. If not, you'll have to find that somewhere else. Is it possible for you to take a vacation and visit a relative?

Answer 3

I feel for you. It's really hard when a person doesn't feel accepted by their own family. A lot of times I get all worked up over stupid stuff, just because I let other people control my emotions.

Try to talk with your mom and see if you can work it out. Things can talk a long time to change, and some things don't. But never give up, and at the same time don't worry about things you can't change.

Also, make sure to do things that make you feel good and that take the stress out of your life. Try to get out of the house at least once a day, even if it's just to take a walk or go to the library. Play music or exercise. Draw. Whatever. If you feel good, maybe it'll rub off on your mom.

Make sure you find someone you can talk to. I have a journal, and it helps me to think things out, but talking with a person is always better, because you get to see another point of view.

You know that life isn't always going to treat you fair. Sometimes it seems like we're doing all we can and it isn't changing anything. Sometimes I just feel helpless. When this happens to me I just let it out on Jesus. You may not feel comfortable with that, and that's okay, but it works for me.

Answer 4

Don't know how old you are but bide your time. If she treats you like this have a talk with her and tell her how she makes you feel. Also, because when people get really upset when in a conversation such as this, make a list of what you want to say with examples to back up your feelings. If that doesnt work~hope you are almost 18.

Answer 5

i really think its a phase. most people go through that at least once in their life time when they feel their family is pushing them to do a bunch of stuff they don't want to do, like they're always yelling at them and against them etc. i felt that way for along time and i still do. and when i first started like this "phase" i went insane. but i calmed down. just think positive and get out of the house alot. i realized that i was kept in the house SO much and thats what pretty much drove me physco.

Answer 6

You only have to deal with her until you are 18 and then you can become very accomplished and then prove to her that you are better than her by taking the fault for your problems and not blame them on other people.

Answer 7

Probably a phase. Although, depending on your age, it may be time to leave home and find your own way.

Answer 8

if you have family in a different state or far away ask them if they mind if you come over and stay for like a week to get your mind off your mom and get a break for both of you.

Answer 9

never say you would rather be dead, put up with it till your old enough to leave home, or go live with a relative.

Answer 10

oh my god are we twins or something cuz i have the exact same problem i just stay in my room by myself or go out with my friends or talk on the phone. but just know that one they are gonna need something from us.