will i ever trust anyone again?

Question

i have experianced a 1st love just as many of us today do so but he of course broke my heart n i never want to go through what i did to have to get over him, (waaay to hard) therfore i decided not to get attached to poeple so easily, i decided not to trust boys anymore because i dont want a repeat. so then it happens again just when i decided to trust poeple somone else cheats on me or lies so now it just all gone. but i meet new n better poeple who are so good to me but i dont beleive anything he says i want to sooo bad but i just cant like he calls me beautiful all the time, n he thinks im the most important thing in the world but how do i know thats not just another pick up line that he uses on everyone he loves to talk to me, and jusst loves to look at my beatiful face he says but i cant beleive him even though i want to i cant and i dont want to loose him over that matter. can anyone help?

i already lost one because of me not being able to beleive or trust any thing he said or did. and i really like this one.

Answer 1

I've had a really bad past with men in my life. Being molested twice and heart breaks and all that jazz. But, once i met my husband, everything changed. It took me a while before I trusted him, but I'm so glad I did.

Tell him how you feel. If hes right he'll understand. Sometimes you just have to open up and take a chance. He sounds like a really good guy.

It may take a while, but you don't want to lose him.

Answer 2

I think you should be friends with a guy before you enter a relationship, because then you 'll know how he really is. You'll find out a lot about someone when you just friends. Communication is the key so if you don't want to lose him just talk to him. not getting attached to a person is a really good thing to do. i don't think jumping right into another relationship after a break up is a bad idea. You should take some time out for yourself. Also you should love yourself and know what you want out of the relationship with someone else is a good thing. Right now im going through a similar situation. He cheated but I forgave him. If you forgive someone for something try not to bring up the past. it only makes things worst. Well my point is you have to communicate with the person you' re in a relationship with, keep the lines of communication open. if you can not talk to the person you're in the relationship with your going to have a lot of problems.

Answer 3

I'm sorry that you're going through this. Just take your time with guys, there is no big hurry. Go out and have fun with your friends. Just keep in mind that a lot of guys are out just looking to get laid, and that's it. If you can deal with that, then that's ok. If you can't then don't do it with them, cause they won't call or the relationship won't last for long. This is normal, and happens all the time. Take your time, don't trust anyone until they can build your trust. Time heals all wounds, so just chalk this up for experience. Best of luck to you........

Answer 4

you have to give the person a chance! it's not fair to treat the new guy as "untrustworthy" because of someone bad you have met in the past. i met a bad guy once, and i felt very bitter towards guys for awhile. the next guy i met said he wanted to show me that there are good guys out there, and i learned that there ARE nice boys out there! it didn't work out w/ him, but not because he was a jerk like the other guy. each relationship, each person is different. there are things you should be careful about, and time will show you who is trustworthy and who is not. take a good look at his actions as well as his words, and if he has many good friends and close family; if he maintains other aspects of his life well it can be a good indicator that he respects them.... but then again i thought the bad guy had everything going (good friends, good job, close family, went to church, the whole 9 yards)... but he wouldn't commit after a few months, which i found strange, and i found out later he was dating other girls! so there is going to be an indication whether or not you can trust him... but you have to let him show you those things instead of accusing him before he does anything. like i said.. it takes time to get to know someone, and u can't prejudge or you'll never get to know someone who could be great for you~~

Answer 5

WELL IT DEPENDS IF YOU THINK THAT YOU CAN REALLY TRUST THIS GUY THEN GO FOR IT AND IF HE IS LYING MOVE ON AND JUST FORGET ABOUT IT.I KNOW ITS TOUGH TO GET OVER IT I HAVE HAD THAT DONE TO MANY TIMES AND I THOUGHT THAT I COULD NEVER TRUST ANYONE AGAIN AND YOU KNOW WHAT ONE DAY I MET A GUY AND I THOUGHT THAT HE WAS JUST ANOTHER DOG BUT I THOUGHT I COULD TRUST HIM AFTER 1 YEAR OF DATING SO WE GOT MARRIED AND HE TURNED OUT TO BE THE LOVE OF MY LIFE WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 16 YEARS NOW AND HAVE 3 CHILDREN AND STILL PLAN TO STAY TOGETHER SO IF YOU THINK THAT YOU CANT TRUST ANYONE AGAIN THEN JUST THINK ABOUT MY STORY AND REMEMBER THAT THERE IS ALWAYS A NEW DAY TO START OVER AGAIN EVEN IF IT MEANS GOING AGAINST EVERY THING THAT YOU FRIENDS TELL YOU.BELIEVE ME I DID IT NOW THEY ALL LIKE HIM.

Answer 6

It is part of life.. I have had many relationships. most of them ending in ALOT OF HEARTACHE & PAIN. I PUT MY BLOOS< SWEAT & A HELL OF ALOT OF TEARS. I take from each realtionship & grow. Trying to never make same mistakes over again to many times. you will learn. it may not be on the 1st go around but you will get there. i am still trying. You name it, it has been in my life & that is the truth. From wives showing up at my door, to x* girlfriend & baby mamma's coming back to re claim. you have the out right flirting & brhind your back phone calls. when Mr, Right comes you will diffently test him in your own ways, but if he stays you have a shot in life together.

Answer 7

Listen to your heart... Dear. Ther is a conflict going on between your mind and heart. At times this situation arises, listen to your heart. Take a next step and start accepting what mind says but for the time being listen to your heart.

Answer 8

literally the exact same thing happened to me. my bf cheated on me and i decided never to trust guys again. but then i founf out one of my really good guy friends liked me and we were talking about it and he was so sweet and saying the sweetest things ever. i totally forgot about what happened with my ex and i felt that i could trust him with anythign and i felt safe with him. i fell in love with him. but something came up in his life and we had to break up. i wanted to get back together so bad. but i was gonna be moving in a few months and he always had another gf. eventually we did get back together. i went on vacation for 4 days ans when i came back he had a new gf and dumped me. but she cheated on him and he regretted ever dumping me so i gave him another chance becasue i still loved him. and were still together today.

i think that you should trust this guy... i had the exact same toughts as you if he used that on ever girl. try getting to know him better. meet some of his friends... see if they'll tell you anything about his past girlfriends. but trusting him and finding another love will help you get over the last one. but just remember... you never forget your first love. he will always be part of your heart.

Answer 9

even though u think he isnt telling the truth he is:) hes probably into u alot because boys say stuff like that when they really love u so keep him!!!i know how u feel but u just gotta get out there again and try try try again till u find that special somebody!!!good luck!!!!

Answer 10

Well, whats the harm in beleiving that he thinks you are good looking. I would be leary of putting to much trust past that tho.