Need some advice from a female about my girlfriend?

Question

My girlfriend and i split up after being togeather about 4 yrs it was just after we had our daughter.We where apart for about 2 yrs and well she must have gotten bored with the person she was with because we decided to get back togeather and work things out .But before all this there is a dfferent guy that lives around the corner from her hes the apartments handyman and she told me she really liked him.so the other night i seen his number on caller id he called her at 9 then at 11 pm i wasent there.I simply asked her why he was calling so late and she said she didnt answer the phone and then got all upset and was acusing me of being jelous and that its non of my bissinuss who she talks to and she said her family and friends come first.Should i be worried about this guy or im i being paranoid.Mind you she is a trust worthy person what could possibly be so important that hes got to call so late.I just dont want him to get in the way of us working things out any advice

Answer 1

The simple fact that you have to ask this question at all tells me that there is a major problem in the relationship. First, I am a woman and my husband and I actually divorced when our daugher was 4 and got back together when she was 6, so I can honestly tell you that i've been where you are and understand! I don't care who he is or what her excuse is, there is NO excuse. When two people are involved in a relationship they should confide in members of the opposite sex, period! I would never allow another man to call me, whether my husband was there or not! HOWEVER, this man may be acting alone and just be pursuing her without provocation. You do need to believe her until she gives you good reason to do otherwise!

Answer 2

Well, I will probably have a totally different opinion about this than any body else. But this is the way I am and the way I see it.

If you two are wanting to get back together, if there is any way possible, she is going about it the wrong way. You are not being paranoid at all. You both are going to have lots of trust and honesty between you two. When you asked her about the person on her caller ID, she should have never got up set about it and further more she should not have told you it wasn't any of your business who she talks to, that tells me that she is not being honest with you and there for hiding something from you. If she wants to try to work things out with you, she needs to learn to be honest in every way with you and that includes the phone calls that she gets. But you are also going to have to be honest with her in every way also.

I have been threw stuff like this myself and I could possibly help you out more if you want me too, just let me know what I can help you with.

Answer 3

First of all, how did he get her number if he didn't get it from her???Hmmm!!! I would be leary of the whole situation, and tell her how you really feel. You can be brutally honest with her, and seeing as how you were together, then not together, and now together, it makes me wonder why it didn't work out with the other guy, why she came back to you (I'm sure you're a nice guy) and will she want to date someone else after you?

Have you ever noticed that when you have done something that you know isn't right and someone else calls you on it, how defensive you can get... she sounds really defensive, don't you think?

Answer 4

HELLO!
She might like that guy, if she've got upset when u've just asked her why did he called. I don't think that u are paranoid! Maby u are jelous, but that's becouse u love her! She must understand that! U could try to make her jealous too! If u don't succeed, i meen if she doesn't give any sign of jealousy, then she might not love u anymore, or she might love that guy more u! Females are verry jealous when are inloved! Why don't u talk with that guy and tell him that u love that girl and tell him to stay out of ur bussinuss! U must have courage to face the truth!
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

You say that she's trust worthy then you have nothing to worry about. But if you push the issue about this guy calling you might just push her into his arms. As long as things are good between the two of you everything should be fine. But if you see this guy and your girlfriend isn't with you I'd tell him to stop calling. Just make sure that she knows you trust her and love her. Good luck.

Answer 6

Whenever people are lying and hiding something they lash out at you and say the types of things she said. She's trying to turn the tables around on you and make you feel like your too jealous. You should worry. If she had nothing to hide then why get so mad ? I would investigate if I was you.

Answer 7

ay homie, OPEN YOUR EYES! its not the handyman getting in the way of you and her working things out...its HER getting in the way of things being worked out. i mean what GOOD and LEGITIMATE reason could she have for snappin at you for handyman calling so late? then again YOU have to use your brain sweetie!!!!! why else would he be calling so late? sounds like you two were separated for a reason and it should have stayed that way. spare your feelings and let her have the handyman while you find someone else who is worthy of you!!!!!

Answer 8

you just need to just leave her , she is obviously not really honest with you, she will just leave you for another man don't put yourself in that situation , just take care of your daughter don't worry about her she will get her's what goes around comes around , you are too good for her If i wasn't married I would take you and your daughter , but I'm married but best of luck

Answer 9

I would leave it be for now. If it happens again, confront her and if she still denies it, then I would be worried. If it was a one time call, it was probably nothing.

Answer 10

Walk away from this one. She's playing games with you.