why does my teenager daughter always have to have the last say ?

Question

when ever me and my daughter talk about anything she has to have the last say .......... no matter how small any ideas cause its annoying me now and getting me stressed !!!!!!!!!!! HELP.....

Answer 1

Because she's a teenager with no respect. Honestly I use to do the same thing to my mom including back talk, and now that I'm 29 years old I realize how childish and disrespectful I was to her and even apologized to her for it once, though our relationship to this day really isn't that great.

Answer 2

Because she's a teenager. There's really no other or better explanation.

She wants to feel like she is in control or always right about everything, and she will fight about it to the death. Just try to remain calm and make sure you are listening to her side of things and try to reach a compromise that you can both live with (but usually, it's all or nothing with teens). If you are stifling her though, it'll just cause her to be more rebellious and do things behind your back so try not to bring down the iron hammer.

Just remember it's a journey and it will pass.

Answer 3

She's a teenager and the two of you are probably going through a power struggle.

If she always have to do it, challenge her on it. Tell her that it's driving you crazy that she always has to have the last word. She'll say she doesn't, but then she'll see in future 'debates' and conversation that she does. It may help to modify her behaviour.

Or, just ignore it. She's a teenager. They always think they are right.

Answer 4

It can be stressful to deal with teenager who may feel neglected or upset about something hence her way of getting back at you. why not sit her down and speak to her face-to -face and let her understand that you really care for her and would like her to give you respect as you always give her. Also try to find out from her what is making so upset as I feel she's throwing her anger about something at you instead of talking about it either because she feel you won't listen. The best of luck.

Answer 5

She is a typical teenager. Teenagers go through a stage where they know EVERYTHING.. Try to ignore her unless she is talking back or trying to get the last say on a decision, if that is the case, state your answer and end the conversation.. Don't argue back and forth with her.

Answer 6

Just like Lilibit says - I was the same. Cant believe I was so rude to my mum. I realised when I was about 18 how bad I was. And now me an my mum get on normaly.
Its just a phase. She will grow out of it at some point.
In the meantime. Hold Tight, Good Luck.

Answer 7

would you like to lock her in a room with my teenage son at least it would give my ears a rest for a while .no really its a learning process the art of negotiating ect. there was some very good stuff brought out by the red nose people about 5/6 years ago which was really useful.a great talking/starting of point .

Answer 8

This is a very difficult age for any child. They are neither adults nor kids and feel lost. They get a bit stubborn with their parents coz they feel they have the right to their opinion and say. It also depends on the company they move in. You gotta talk to your teenager at length...try to be firneds with her than a mom.

Answer 9

Not to be offensive, but I was this exact same way as a teen. And I learned every trick in the book from watching how my mother herself interacted with people. Maybe she got her need to have the last say from you? My mom cured that with a series of black eyes. I learned quickly to put my face into my pillow before I said "the last word."

Answer 10

Why does she always have to have the last word? Because she's a teenager. Sounds like she is testing some boundries right now. Hopefully this stage won't last long.