I've been with my boyfriend now since 1999. We're going on our 7 year anniversary coming up. We get along so well, and we love each other. He always tells me he loves me, and I him.
I'm just confused how we've been together so long and he still hasn't asked me to marry him. Do you think I should ask him?!
We go to a chuch we recently found together and everyone there is great. He loves God and I do too. We've had a dog together for quite some time, so I'm sure that he'd be great with a little baby running around!
Our parents get along well, and all of our friends. It's like we are a big family already, so I don't think it would be weird to ask him. I just had always expected him to be the one to ask.
What do you think I should do?
2006-07-13 10:25:03 · 25 answers · asked by newyork.volleyball 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Actually, I'm gay. So, I hope he is!
2006-07-13 10:28:47 · update #1
Thanks for all of the input so far. The question is serious, and the facts are true.
We're both men. When no one knew I was a man, they thought we'd been together for 7 years and that's insane to be together without gettng married. I agree.
He hasn't popped the question because it's not legal. Unfortunate, isn't it? Two God-fearing Christians in a stable home and a stable relationship who hardly ever fight, can't get married.
Thanks for the support anyway.
2006-07-13 10:35:11 · update #2
Maybe he's scared. Is marriage something you have discussed in the past? If you think he would like to get married, go for it! There is nothing wrong with the woman asking, sometimes men need that swift kick in the butt.
2006-07-13 10:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
>>>Two God-fearing Christians in a stable home and a stable relationship who hardly ever fight, can't get married.<<<
I live with my mother, and I will live with her until I get married in November.
My mother and I are God-fearing Christians of the Catholic variety.
We hardly ever fight.
We have a more than stable relationship.
We have a stable home.
So, does this mean my mother and I should be able to marry each other?
2006-07-14 17:52:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure I think you should bring it up, why not? Specially that you both beleive in God, you should be on the same wavelength on that topic.
It can be a very simple/honest conversation. No big deal ! And you don't have to ask him : tell him it'd be nice if you'd asked me to marry you some day...
Good luck
2006-07-13 17:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seven YEARS??? Hell yes, even if he's not ready to get married, he better get you a rock or get 'a packin'. I know someone who spent 10 years with a guy b4 she left him for someone else who was ready to marry and have a child with her. Don't wait that long. If the guy can't even buy a ring and start seriously talking about marriage, then mabey you need to find another great guy who also will marry you and have children.
2006-07-13 17:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It had to be hard to find a church that accepted a gay couple. You should have a commitment ceremony, if you haven't. That's a way to express your feelings for each other publically.
Some churches even allow gays to use them for the ceremonies! There are still plenty of tolerant Christians out there, it's just hard finding a tolerant pastor who's self inflated views of Christianity aren't archaic.
2006-07-13 18:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by iu_runner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have communication if any relationship is going to work, I would not necessarily pop the question, he may want to do that, but you might tell him how you feel and ask him where your relationship is going and if there is a chance for marriage in the future?
2006-07-13 17:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by bryton1001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't pop the question if I were you. I expect to be treated like a lady, you know?
Have you two discussed this at all? Perhaps it would be best to find out how he feels about marriage first before you dive off the deep end.
Best of luck to you.
2006-07-13 17:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by Joa5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it sounds like you and your boyfriend have a great relationship, I don't think you have anything to lose by asking. But......there is always the chance that he may say "no" to marriage, and you should be prepared for that too. Best of luck!!!
2006-07-13 17:31:11 · answer #8 · answered by Lidia T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know if you should but let me just tell you this my cousin was in the same situation all she did was let him know how she felt & told him I'm ready to settle down so either we get married or I move on, so he finally asked her to marry him, so they got married & have two cute lil boys & are pretty damn happy, especially him.
2006-07-13 17:30:41 · answer #9 · answered by roxy10 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In seven years you have not discussed marriage?
If the answer is no you two are just friends.
If yes and that has been a "someday when" concept, pop the question.
2006-07-13 17:30:45 · answer #10 · answered by mike g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋