My grandmother and mother always told me if I want to keep a boyfriend or even a guy who is just a friend. Then, I cannot call them or they will run and feel uncomfortable around or never speak to me again. However, I asked my younger friends about it and they think it is okay to call or email a boyfriend or a guy who is just a friend. So, I was wondering is it appropriate to email or call a guy or should the guy call or email the girl first and take the intiative?
2006-07-13 10:22:48 · 10 answers · asked by brooke992002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They're 1/2 right. With a friend, it doesn't really matter who initiates the contact as long as both of you want to be friends with each other. But if you're interested in a guy, you want him to pursue you. Men do like the chase and when you roll over and make it easy for them to get you and give them everything right up front, well, then there's nothing for them to pursue. It sounds a little old-fashioned, but if you like a guy and you think things could go further into relationship-land, you want to get him to call you and ask you out for a date. I actually emailed my boyfriend first (we met online) because he was in one of my groups and I wasn't even thinking of dating him, I just saw that he liked the same things and thought I'd made a new friend. But he'd flirt, and I would slightly flirt back until he asked me for my phone number. And he called. And he still does most of the calling now, though since we've been together a while, I can certainly call him without fear of him thinking I'm clingy or anything. You don't say how old you or your friends are, but I'm guessing you don't have quite as much experience dating as grandma or your mom had. Good luck!
2006-07-13 10:28:57 · answer #1 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your going to listen to your younger friends over your grandmother and mother ?? What do the young girls know anyway ? Most of them are making that same mistake. Your family is right. Men HAVE to work for you or else they will use and abuse you. If it comes too easy to them they dont want it. Treat a guy like sh*t and he will continue to come back for more. Call him first or show interest first and he will play you. That's just the way it is.
2006-07-13 10:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Run away. appears like a participant. He would not fairly want a lengthy time period courting, he purely needs to apply that as a line so as that he can get a lady into mattress. locate somebody else that is extra perfect and easily should be with you. He would not be looking for someone else if he fairly did love you. He ought to love you, yet extra like a chum sort. tell him that on the grounds that he's attempting to bypass out with different females, you're going to attempt to bypass out with different adult men. He ought to get mad yet he should not be attempting as a lot as now you and yet another human being.
2016-11-06 08:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with taking the initiative, but let him take part of the reins. Sometimes our flirting isn't enough and we have to take that step. It's a good way to let them know your interested, but don't over do it
2006-07-13 10:28:29 · answer #4 · answered by Che H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear... You know what.. Most guys will not take the iniative, so please do.. The worse that can happen is that they say no, which I dont' see happening...
To be honest, it is better you say it because later in life when the oppourtunity passes you will find out that they did like you... Unfortunateally, it happends more often that you would think...
2006-07-13 10:25:52 · answer #5 · answered by Rob D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is cool no prob with that and if you like the guy it just lets him know. most guys will sit there and wonder if you like them if you answer it will be a lot more fun
2006-07-13 10:26:34 · answer #6 · answered by cowboy9018 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love when a woman takes iniative !
2006-07-13 10:25:17 · answer #7 · answered by ogbobbypickle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
every situation is different. sometimes its nice when a girl takes the initiative sometimes its not
2006-07-13 10:26:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its ok to initiate some action
dont overdo it
then guys do start wondering ........
2006-07-13 10:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
o ya there aint nothin wrong w/ that
2006-07-13 10:25:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋