Ok to try to make a long story short, I have been friends with my current girlfriend for the past year and a half now. Last Summer she broke it off with her ex-boyfreind that she had been going out for three years. He cheated on her (3x+), and flirted with other women in front of her face.
We became very close as friends and this past winter I asked her out, thinking that this would be enugh time for her to have gotten over whatever fears and feelings that she might have carried from her past relationship.
Unfortunatealy, for the past month or so she has pushed me away so badly that we have been in a constant fight patteren with different out of left field problems that are "caused by me" which after discussion, we allways realize that at most they were misunderstandsings.
She has admitted to the fact that she is scared abou the fact that we are somewhat serious and woried that it will follow her last relationship. Is there anything I can do to reassure her that I'm not him?
2006-07-13 10:08:23 · 3 answers · asked by Rob D 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well theres not much you can do, she's scared, she doesn't want you to be like her ex, she might think that deep down, all guys are the same (which isn't true). What you can do though is be there for her, listen to what she has to say, be understanding about the fact that shes scared. Overtime, one of two things could happen, she could push you away further, or she could overcome her fears and realize that your not her ex, and that you actually care about her. Most girls love the little things, like if your girlfriend dresses up nice, tell her she looks good, and even if she isn't dressed up, tell her shes beautiful. Give her flowers, and candy. But don't make it seem like your trying to hard, some girls don't like that. Well I think I've covered just about everything, I hope this helps. I understand what shes going through, and I wan't to help.
2006-07-13 10:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by Princess Gemini 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you won't be able to replace your self...you gotta in simple terms how you in all likelihood can believe again. Do you surely imagine she ought to cheat on you? in case you prefer to spend something else ofyour existence with her, that ought to inform you in case you are able to believe her or no longer. in accordance to my bf, he became cheated on by all his girlfriends and regularly i think like hes pushing me away...and different situations i think like he quite loves me. ;). If this female returns your emotions, then theres prob. no longer something to be worried about. Open up slightly, do not dive into "trusting" elementary issues count too. she will be able to understand what a seize you're ;).
2016-10-14 10:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be her friend. perhaps thats all she can handle at the moment. perhaps if you are around and you dont push onto her, you can get with her. if you show her that you are a good man whether or not she is there, then you are likely to convince her that you are the right choice for her. but its her choice.
2006-07-13 10:11:28 · answer #3 · answered by LoneWolf8003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋