He is perverted with her, asks if she needs "muscle milk" etc, I just do not think this is appropriate to talk to a coworker this way, much less a married co worker.
2006-07-13 09:41:48 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I just think its wrong to act like that. Not very professional. Not jealous, since he is gay, but just think that its inappropriate to talk to my wife that way.
2006-07-13 09:45:39 · update #1
That is called sexual harassment, I would be offended as well.
2006-07-13 09:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by webwench2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is pretty inappropriate, but if its not bothering your wife you cant let it bother you. You cant control the actions of other people,be it your wife or some pervy guy trying to get in her panties. Be greatful your wife is attractive and desireable and be even more greatful shes faithful. Rest assured if it gets out of hand she will confide in your or handle it with the proper people. Maybe shes a little flattered by it? When it gets old she'll do something about it. Just dont act jealous or spiteful, it will just make you look like an a$$hole.
2006-07-13 10:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay or not it is not a way of talking to a lady, specially if you work with her. Maybe your wife takes it as a joke but for you is an offense since you are the husband and you're right!!!
First of all talk to your wife about it, it is not a way of treating a lady and to a co worker and he treats her as she would not have a husband. Your wife, sorry for this, is not respecting you since she allows this kind of behaviour. So demand her to respect you stopping this situation.
2006-07-13 10:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by C6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah... he's a little too fresh. im surprised your wife isn't offended by this, unless she's flirting back to him -- and that's why the guy thinks it's ok to talk to her like that. or maybe something else is going on between them, othewise why would he have the guts to say those things in front of the woman's husband?
2006-07-13 09:46:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of her kitchen and tend to your own garden. She is with him for whatever reason; that shouldn't and doesn't concern you. Until she ask for your advice on the subject leave it along. If you open your mouth to express your thoughts with good intentions; I guarantee it will backfire in your face. Even if she came to you; all you can do is be a sounding board of encouragement.
2006-07-13 09:54:40 · answer #5 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that the way that guy talks to her is highly disrespectful and that she is better than that, and that you do not appreciate someone treating your wife with disrespect. all she has to say to him is "please, i am married" or something to that effect, and he should stop. but if she doesnt say anything at all then it only encourages him. that simple line lets him know she is not comfortable with it but also does not cause the awkwardness and hostility that might happen if she approached the higher ups about it.
2006-07-13 09:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by NAQ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if he learned the term "muscle milk" from her? Why else was she not offended? Buddy there is more to this story than what you think you know.
2006-07-13 09:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by backroadhome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too would be offended and would try and approach the perverts boss, and inform him whats going on. Good luck
2006-07-13 09:45:08 · answer #8 · answered by mcfly878 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is the same way...I have a guy that talks to me in a rude tone alot....(personally he does it because he is below me but doesn't have the authorite he wants) but anyways...i tell my husband the things he says and he get more mad at him then I do... women dont get to angry about it because we dont really pay to much attention to it...at least when we have someone at home...
2006-07-13 09:53:41 · answer #9 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you sare offended she should be offended. She should first tell him that his comments are un welcome. Secondly, she should document what he says to her. If he continues after she tells him she does not appreciate his comments she should speak w/ her Supervisor and HR IMMEDIATELY. Even though muscle milk is a drink, it can be considered harrassment depending on the connotation used.
2006-07-13 09:47:56 · answer #10 · answered by ladybug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is a grown-up and you are not her mother. If she says it doesn't bother her you should back off. If this happens to you on your job then by all means you should speak up. Trust your wife to handle herself and please don't go to her place of business "play" offended husband she's not a child. If my husband did that I would be humiliated and I would never forgive him for not respecting me enough to handle this in my own way.
2006-07-13 09:46:22 · answer #11 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋