Personally, I don't have a problem with sex before marriage, however, I know many people, for whatever their reasons (religious or otherwise), they believe that pre-marital sex is wrong or should not be done. So what happens if two virgins who waited for each other find out (after marriage) that sex is horrible or impossible?
2006-07-13 09:15:09 · 35 answers · asked by xenomorph_girl 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Everyone saying "they wouldn't know any better"... you are cracking me up! Hahahha!
2006-07-13 09:22:55 · update #1
Sex before marriage should be mandatory
2006-07-13 09:20:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
The problem is that God's plan was for sex to unite 2 people like nothing else can.
However, sex is sort of like sticking duct tape to a nice hairy arm (no, I'm serious). If you put it on and rip it off it will stick less and less until after 5 or 6 times it won't stick at all. Then, no matter how much you want it to stick, it just won't.
Similarly, as you have sex with different people you give them each some portion of yourself - at least with the first several people. Eventually, when you find the person you want to marry sex doesn't have that same connecting power that it once did.
2006-07-13 09:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by brodie g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, they would have been waiting for each other for quite some time before the marriage, so the passion would be building and building in their bodies and minds.
They would know nothing but each other, and take the time after marriage to learn each others bodies and what is pleasurable and what is not.
So with that in mind, two unselfish people, wait for one another, and discover pleasures together, makes for great sex.
Personally, I think preconceived ideas that your husband should somehow perform as a previous lover should, would make for quite a let down, More harm in that, than in waiting for one another virginally.
2006-07-13 09:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If two virgins wait for each other before marriage there must've been a whole lot more to the relationship that caused them to decide on a life-time partner without the sex. Good for you! Too much emphasis is being placed in the marriage bed. keep your focus on the relationship that brought you this far and I tell you, at the right time this too will fall into place. there needs to be some more closeness and intimacy-and time- before the maturity increases and you find each other in this new area. take your time.
2006-07-13 09:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wonder why so many marriages break up? I'm not saying sex is EVERYTHING. But a big part of why the divorce rate is so high is that many people do not fully explore relationships and sexual compatibility before committing to marriage. They jump in, unaware of exactly how their chemistry works.
Sometimes they don't discover that their chemistry is incompatible until it's too late... after they are married.
2006-07-13 09:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by spike_is_my_evil_vampire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a ton of self-help books out there for people who want to spice up their sex lives. And despite statements to the contrary by certain individuals in both camps who have misinterpreted The Bible, there's nothing wrong with sex or finding better ways to enjoy it -- it's an activity that was created by God to be an ultimate expression of love and a very enjoyable experience, BETWEEN TWO MARRIED PEOPLE.
2006-07-13 09:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by sarge927 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people who wait until marriage for sex realize that sex is not the focal point of the relationship. If the sex is bad, then they work on it, just like any other part of the relationship. Like when my sister got married, she was a HORRIBLE cook. But over the years she worked on it, and now she's a decent cook. It's the same for sex. It takes time, patience, communication, love, respect, and curiosity.
2006-07-13 09:21:41 · answer #7 · answered by Dave S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is only one facet of a married relationship and since these two waited the others facets will far outwheigh the sex.
besides sex in a mental activity that on a limited basis involves the physical body. If they truly love each other even the worst technique will be great.
2006-07-13 09:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by mike g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is horrible or impossible, one of them must have a medical problem. Hopefully a doctor could fix it. There are good Christian sex books out there to help them such as The Act of Marriage by Tim LaHay.
2006-07-13 09:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by pennypincher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every couple that I know that waited(and I know several) until they were married said the sex was better than they expected.
I am a Christian and believe that pre-marital sex is wrong. I also believe that if a couple obeys God and waits, He will bless them in that area.
2006-07-13 09:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by Tigger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad sex is not limited to 2 virgins....this can happen to 2 porno stars. I think they'll do what comes naturally and if they think it really sucks they'll find a way to fix it. It's not rocket science.
2006-07-13 09:23:35 · answer #11 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋