you may be wondering how i know...well,it's been a heluva relationship leading to this and they have had differences that could fill out the grand canyon.two weeks to this weekend my friend comes up and says of the woman he weds,"she bewitced me".
so you see my reason...what can he do?how does he make a bad situation any better?
2006-07-13 09:00:40 · 42 answers · asked by geranimo_man2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well you can just advice your friend which I'm sure you already have but at the end of the day the decision is his. I know you are concerned but I would suggest you stay out of it because sometimes these things have a way of backfiring.
2006-07-13 09:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is never to late, Yes the other person might get hurt, but I can promise you that it is easier to change things before the wedding that after. I mean when you marry someone it is suppose to be FOREVER. Alot of times they feel the heat, the excitement, not the fact that this person is the one and only that you plan on being with, and it takes alot more to get a divorce than to think about it before you do it. I have to admit I am a female and I know some females that would marry a light post if it would let them say to friends and others that they are getting married. The world tells us that we should all be married by a certain time or we are not normal, well What do they know. Becasue the way I look at it a marriage commitment is something that should really be thought about before doing it.
2006-07-13 09:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by jazzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it just your opinion that she's the wrong girl, or does he feel that way, too? Some people thrive on drama and he might be one of them if all this time he kept going back for more. Or he might love her even if she's a pain. If he truly feels she's wrong for him, then it would be a lot less complicated and better to back out now than after the wedding. At least he won't have to pay a lawyer to break off an engagement.
2006-07-13 12:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by limerickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knew they had differences before...I don't understand why he would continue to pursue until now.
This is definitely not a good way to start off a marriage. I say if his whole heart isn't into it then he should back out now. If he thinks that she's 'bewitching' him now...then wait until they're married! Hah. ;)
If it isn't working out now [and this is the time it definitely should]...then it's just going to end in divorce [possibly an extremely early divorce]. What a waste of money and an even bigger heartache to deal with later.
Plus, when the next women comes along whom he truly does love and wants to marry...how is he supposed to explain this marriage to her? It would be extremely awkward and this could be dangerous to his future relationships. You should really talk to him about it.
2006-07-13 09:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by xxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly feels he doesn't want to marry this girl, no matter what he should run the other direction fast.
A cancelled wedding is still a lot less costly than a lengthy embittered divorce with kids later down the road.
Sometimes guys (and gals) do just go along with things for awhile and then suddenly realize, whoa .. what the *F* am I doing?
This happened to one of my sons, and he is so glad he managed to get out of it before the wedding!! He is now with a wonderful girl he adores and who adores him.
2006-07-13 09:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by Pichi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is married until the preacher makes the pronouncement. Then the proper paperwork is registered and the marriage is legal.
If there are ANY doubts on either person's part, please advise them to not got married. It's better to do it now that have to go through a divorce. There will be tears & hard feelings and alot of money down the ol' tube. Still it is better than a bad marriage. Have him call it off.
2006-07-13 14:05:59 · answer #6 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. It isn't your business. Let them be adults and handle it himself. It is not your right to interfere. If you really disagreed with the relationship you would have said it sooner.
And who are you to say that it's the wrong girl? How do you know he wasn't joking when he said "she beWITCHED me"? He could just be frusturated with the fiancee because she is stressed from planning the wedding.If they are making the decision to go through with the marriage it is their choice, not yours to make, support your friend. Stay out of it. Nosey!
P.S. EVERYONE has cold feet. NO ONE is 100% sure of what they are doing. That is not a reason not to get married. That is an excuse used by too many immature people.
2006-07-13 10:00:14 · answer #7 · answered by irishcreaminator83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend truly feels he shouldn't be marrying her then he owes it to her and himself to call off the wedding. It's never too late to call off a wedding before the fact. Once they are married it gets messier. It won't be easy, but it's the right thing to do. Tell him to call off the wedding. She's going to be upset. A lot of people will be upset. But they will get over it. Most people will see that it's better to call off the wedding than have to get a divorce down the road, especially if there are children involved. God bless both of them!
2006-07-13 09:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by celticwoman777 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not get married he can always back out. If he dose not have to say I do unless he means it. You can also stand up when the preacher ask is their any reason these 2 should not be married or you can stand up ans say what you know and stop the wedding or he can say something to her before the wedding and just simpley not get married.
2006-07-13 09:10:08 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still have time. Go to the venue very early on Saturday morning. Spray it with [petrol if its in Engerland,] gasoline if Amuricca and toss in a lighted match. That'll give you a breathing space to dream up some even more hare brained scheme for saving the world. Your name is not Bush by any chance?
2006-07-13 09:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by SouthOckendon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋