I have called DHS on her several times. She lives with the baby out of state, but will return home soon. Now, she will not allow me to speak with my grandchild, and my son will not talk to me at all. The baby loves me, and I her, but I don't know how to get in contact with my grandbaby. My question is this, what rights (visitation, or otherwise) do I have, since they were never married?I love my grandchild, and want to be a part of her life.
2006-07-13 08:53:45 · 37 answers · asked by mousyfan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Check your state for Grandparent rights. Unfortunately some states don't have it. ie Indiana. Call an attorney!!
2006-07-13 08:56:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have no rights where your grandchild is concerned. The parents have the right to allow the child to associate with whom they choose -- or not. Since you've got an animosity with the mother, this won't go anywhere. And was there actually abuse found? If not, you have no case. If you made it up - shame on you. Since your son is also not speaking with you, as well, you really don't have any options. Your son, as the legal father, could allow you access -- but if he won't do it either, my guess is that there's more going on. Grandparents usually have good relationships with their own children, and so have automatic access to their grandchildren. When their own children say otherwise -- that's a sure sign something serious has gone down. Kids don't just cut off their parents for no reason if there has been a decent relationship in place.
2006-07-13 08:58:46 · answer #2 · answered by Shadycat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I'd be brokenhearted if I couldn't see my grandchildren. You must be, too. You could file a petition in Family Court for grandparent visitation. Locally the judge generally gives grandparents 1-2 weekends a month. A day long visit, maybe an overnight. It may be a long, drawn out battle. A relationship with her is important, but it sounds like you'll be driving a bigger wedge between you and your son. Is he still with her? Doesn't he believe she's abusive to the child? God bless!
2006-07-13 09:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by celticwoman777 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly this goes on far too much now adays. Its sounds pretty difunctional all the way around. I dont think you have very many rights to your grandchild because they were never married. But all I can tell you is to research and hopefully you will figure it out if not for you, mostly your grand daughter. She is the victem in this whole thing and the sad thing is, she never asked to be.
2006-07-13 08:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by so sick of being broke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I´m very sorry to tell you this, the parents have all the rights of the baby!, you are a grandparent, not the parent!
If you love that much your grandchild, TRY very hard to UNDERSTAND the point of view of your son and her wife, otherwise you´ll have to be away from your grandson.
Sad, very sad thing isn´t it!
But... TRY to fix it!
BEST LUCK
2006-07-13 09:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by Isadora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something doesnt sound quite right here. If you've already called DHS several times, what has been their response? Why doesnt your son speak with you? Too many questions here. Is the child truly in danger? Or are you a simply a meddling parent?
2006-07-13 09:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pobably don't have any rights as to visitation where your grandchild is concerned, so your best bet would be to try to resolve any conflict you have with the young woman, and then contact an attorney if the lady continues to refuse you. Good luck!
2006-07-13 09:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by freeversecrafter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this sucks but the only way you can spend time with grandchildren is try and be part of son's life and try and talk to him. and when she does move back and dhs has to be called let them know you are willing to foster the kids. if not see if they will at least let you have visits while they are in foster care. they should work with the relatives of the kids. for grandparents rights you need a lawyer.
2006-07-13 09:12:05 · answer #8 · answered by montanamom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is grandparents rights. Check with your local court and I do not think them being married or not has no impact on the grandparents rights. What I hear from what you said is that maybe your son feels that you are butting in where you do not belong. Maybe you need to take a step back and look at it from his point of view. Still pursue your rights as a grandparent.
2006-07-13 08:59:22 · answer #9 · answered by 4X4 Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt let you see the baby neither.If she was abusive DHS would have done something and they did not so I can see her point.
Some states have grandparents right some dont as a lawyer.
2006-07-13 09:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do what i had done to me threating phone calls and harrasment. but my case was differnet my mil is a wacko and thought cuz my fiance and i had problems i wouldnt let her see my daughters which wasnt true.
but as far as i know you as a grandmother do have rigths to see the child so contact a lawyer ASAP!!!! I am sure they will be able to help you!
I wish you the very best of luck and DONT give up on your grandchild!! she needs you very much!!
2006-07-13 09:06:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋