How do I deal with mean unkind and impatient people in my life?

Question

The Bible says love is Patient but people arent.

If you are not like veryone else people tend to be mean and nasty.

I am tired of either reasoning with these people or balntlay telling them off.

I have to deal with people on a daily basis.

I want to do the right godly thing.

Answer 1

If you want to deal with it in a Godly way, put on the whole armour of God! Gird yourself in the knowledge that attacks by these people are based on their inability to interact appropriately due to some problem with their own spirituality. Pray for them. Ask God to bless their lives so that they will be happier people who won't have to attack others to feel a sense of self worth. This is part of why Jesus said pray for our enemies!

I also suggest developing a thicker skin. This means work on your part in not owning the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune that come your way! Know who you are and what your strengths and weaknesses are so you'll know what to see as constructive criticism and what is really an attack. You have the ability to protect yourself from within (ie) decide what to let get to you and what to let bounce off as unimportant.

Eleanore Roosevelt said it best, "Nobody can insult you without your permission." Develop an "I'm ok, you're ok" attitude about others. See their meanness as a symptom of their unhappiness and not an affront to you and you will be happier yourself.

Answer 2

The right godly thing would be to just deal with it. With as much strength that you have and with prayer, just be patient. Do not tell them off because we, as Christians, are suppose to be cool minded, and not tempermental. We should be self-controlled, not hotheaded and argumentative. Titus speaks about this, if you'd like to read it. It's an epistle of Paul, written to the Cretians, (Crete was a city/island during this time, to where the letter was written).

I work at Bojangles for the summer, until college starts back. I have to deal with people also and let me tell you, people can get mad quick and can be just as evil as the devil. I was mad one day and was loosing my temper. I prayed for God to calm me down. After taking money from a customer and having a boss not to pleased with me (she's not too pleased with anyone come to think of it, she's also one of the evil people spoken about above), I went to breakdown boxes. Well the tape as tight on one box so I took out my nife to cut it and I accidentally cut my finger. The cut wasn't that bad but it was the deepest one that I've ever had. I was actually scared for a second. Anyways, when I got cut, I took the tim to reflect that this was a result of my impatience. For the rest of the day, I was more patient with people and calm.

Lean on God for your patience, you cannot be patience by yourself, not for long at least.

Curtis

Answer 3

Maintain your dignity. That's the first thing. Practice a few mild reproofs for when needed; "That is hardly fair" is one of my favorites. Or "I hope you don't mean that" for someone who says something nasty about someone else.

A good resource is Miss Manners; she has written two or three books about manners and she is entertaining as well as informative. There's also a new book due out soon from Lynne Truss, the author of "Eats, Shoots and Leaves" called "Talk to the Hand: The Utter Bloody Rudeness of the World Today, or Six Good Reasons to Stay Home and Bolt the Door". It's bound to be as entertaining and informative as her first book.

Answer 4

You would have to do what the word says Ephesians 6-10-18v Galatians 5-14-26v You must understand that you are not dealing with the person, it is the spirit that is behind that person. And if they are like you describe in your question then you know that they do not have the spirit of GOD in their lives. You have to line your life up with what GOD says. HE is LORD and HE knows what is right. HE will help you do the right thing. Don't get discourage when people are like that. Just pray and move on.

Answer 5

Just be patient. Give them holiday gifts to soften their additudes toward you, if you personally know them, like they are coworkers or classmates. If they are just random people that you don't know, just be patient and tell yourself that you only have to deal with them for just a little bit longer, then you will never see or hear from them again. Just be patient.

Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
1 Corinthians 13:7-8

There is more, but i don't really want to type it all. if there is any verse to live by, i would live by this one (or the 10 commandments)

Answer 6

u pray 4 them
show them kindness
hate the sin love the sinner
u need 2 b the godly xample 2 the lost
u r the light unto this dark world
what would god do? think about it.
remember: jesus says 4give them 4 they know not what they do .

Answer 7

Live by example and be what you would like them to be but DO NOT be a doormat to them and let them walk all over you. Remove yourself from their presence if at all possible and limit as much as you can the amount of time you have to deal with them.

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world." - Gandhi

Answer 8

If you are a follower of Christ you are not supposed to be like everyone else and yes they are supposed to hate you for His names sake. Jesus told us that people would be mean and nasty that just lets us know we are doing our job right ,by standing out from the evil ones and standing up for the Perfect one. Jesus loves you. I pray that things get easier on you.

Answer 9

Don't stoop to their level, treat them as you would want to be treated (not as you think they deserve), and pray for them.

It won't be long before they notice how pleasant, patient, "all together," and strong you are on an inner level -- then they will wonder, "How in the heck does she do it?"

Answer 10

Definitely smile and treat them better than they treat you because you are supposed to repay a negative with a positive, that will make you a better person. Good luck!