How can I communicate openly with my father?

Question

I love my dad but he is in a different continent. He moved when my parents divorced few years ago. Ever since then, I couldn't communicate with him. He thinks I don't care and he even told me once that I never ask about his health conditions, etc. Nowadays, when I ask, he just says everything is good when I know it's not. But a part of me is afraid to know because I don't want to know that he's not happy. Perhaps I still feel like a child and don't have the courage or don't know how to open him up. Please help.

Answer 1

Sounds like your dad maybe depressed. He may feel like a failure and doesn't want to worry you. you should express how you feel when you interact with him. if dad has room at his new place you should spend more time with him

Answer 2

I think you should just be open and honest with him
I think you should just tell him what is on your mind. I think alot of times, we try to make people communicate the way that we want them to. So, you do the talking and let him listen. If he opens up to you, that is great. If not, you have gotten off what you wanted to say. Some people have not been taught to communicate effectively, so you start it off and see what happens.

I just lost my dad in April and I wish that I could talk to him again.

So, just be open and you do the talking!

Answer 3

I think maybe he doesn't want you to know things like that either. But be sure that it makes a difference when you actually ask, even if he lies to you. It's one of those things that are just really hard for a father to do- you know, admit his weaknesses.

Answer 4

I agree on the above answer

Answer 5

try writing him letters or emails. tell him about your life and how you feel. ask him about his life and how he feels. don't pressure him on the health stuff.