11 Timothy 3:12 says those who live a godly life will be persected.
My husband and I have been christians long enough to know that not everyone is going to like us or appreciate us because of our faith.
My question is how do I deal with my husbands step father who at times talks down to my husband, feels that what he does is NOT good enough and he always could do "just a little bit more and "do a little better.
Husand does not feel the need to tell him off becuase he feels happy he is married to me and we dont do over to his parents home often because of this. Shawn has the satisfaction that he does what he can for the Lord.
My husbands family looks down on us becuase we don't have a house and money is not the focal point in our marraige and we work hard in our jobs and ministry, yet Shawns stepdad treats hsi sons from his first marraige with "kid gloves" and they can do no wrong.
We are moving far aways soon and I am glad
2006-07-13 08:08:04 · 18 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I know it's hard, just keep your head up....and hang in there. Ask the Lord to keep you strong through this obstacle. The devil LOVES to use the people closest to us, to make us lose our faith and belief. Just keep that in mind every time someone acts that way.
2006-07-13 08:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't you think you are looking down on him.... Maybe saving someone from a godly life will give you that much more faith. Maybe time has pushed you too far, and things are not so easy to talk again.. what do I know..
You are doing the right thing. Moving away is ignoring, but to have bad thoughts is quite negative. You can be angry, but just don't start thinking about little nit pick stuff.
You must understand his father just wants the best...Doing a little more... a little better. ....good don't accept mediocrity. Ask your father in law - what suggestions he has? What steps or process can he recommend? Does he have a job which matches your husbands strengths? Explore your options....
When I was a honor roll student, and I got 89, instead of 90, my mother spanked me till my teachers were worried.... You grit your teeth and get angry. But you don't want to waste time and energy. Focus on the good things, and like my father taught me, everyone has something good in them. And learn only that. Becoming negative will blind you and make you ignorant.
You can do more, you are already moving away...... but what if people around you need you.. Is really moving away the only answer or just the easiest one?
Just because a scripture says this about a person, doesn't mean you let everyone burn in fire.....
At least you always have a good joke about in-laws... no?
2006-07-13 15:34:24 · answer #2 · answered by andy f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I should think the answer would be clear enough; just ignore his condescension and don't let his warped values get to you. Face it, he probably is not very pleased with your husband and you being so dedicated to work that does not pay well because he sees getting old and not being able to count on you two to take care of him. Let him know that money is not all old people need; they also need willing hands to do chores for them, a place to live where they don't have to be afraid of being alone in case of a slip in the bathtub, that kind of thing. And that for all you do not share his values, you have sufficient respect for him that you are committed to helping him when he needs it. Then praise him for being strong and independent, so he doesn't think you're saying he is old now. But if he doesn't die first, he will be old someday, and will be glad that someone in the family thought beyond bank accounts.
You say you are glad you are moving far away. I don't blame you, but do keep in touch with the folks at home. They will need to know you care, and they will need to know how to get in touch with you in case they need more practical help. Don't be discouraged by his crankiness, but love him for his love for your mother-in-law. Since he has wonderful sons from his first marriage, chances are he will never need your help; but your mother-in-law might.
2006-07-13 15:19:22 · answer #3 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds like a good man. He is trying to follow the commandment of honoring his father. Sometimes it's a hard thing to bite the bullet and let the other person slap the other cheek just as hard as he slapped the first one. Follow your husbands lead and leave it be.
2006-07-13 15:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Hun
i am sorry to hear you are having such a hard time with your in laws i thoughts and preys are with you
but to be honest if they look down on you just turn the other cheek and leave them to there sad life's if they can not love you for who you are i would leave them to there life's and i would get on with your life's happiness is hard to find and when you have a loving husband what more could you ask for
my preys are with you god bless you and your husband
respect
shaz
2006-07-13 15:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by sharon B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of yourselves as royalty. A Prince or Princess would always answer and behave in a gracious manner, no matter how rude or small the people they are dealing with are.
This is a very Christlike way to be.
2006-07-13 15:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by Makemeaspark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be encourage. You have the answers already which is wisdom. Please don't feel guilty because you have to step in to make that decision. I've had to do the same with my In-laws and I even moved away! They got the message pretty clear! Pray and continue to encourage ur Husband which is very important right now. God Bless!
Shalom
2006-07-13 15:31:01 · answer #7 · answered by Pashur 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible also says to stay away from people and things that offend you. It seems that your husband's father is trying to push him into secular things; while your husband is trying to focus on the Godly things. Pray.
2006-07-13 15:23:20 · answer #8 · answered by Linda T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your situation, I would refuse to ever go to the stepdad's house again no matter how much your husband begged. But that's just me.
2006-07-13 15:14:14 · answer #9 · answered by lenny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure they look down on you or is it that they cannot face themselves. Most who put another down are reacting from their own insecurities. Just because someone has more than you does not make them any better or worse. Your husband does well to ignore it.
2006-07-13 15:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Di-USA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prayer, prayer, and more prayer. Lower you expectations of these people. You cannot change them, only your reaction to them.
Moving will probably help a bit but they are still family. Just try not to let them get under your skin so much. God Bless.
2006-07-13 15:11:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋