Borderline Personality Disorder, experience?

Question

HI does anyone have BPD, or have experience of having a friend or family member who has it? I suspect my friend has BPD but how to be sure?? Thanks.

Answer 1

Would your feelings towards your Friend alter if he/she did?
People with BPD's are often very demanding and draining on friendships. But I have found that being honest towards them, and making them aware of their behaviour can have many positive effects.
Borderline personality disorders can be treated, but can take a very long time, and a lot of hard work.
Don't give up on your Friend!! Good luck x

Answer 2

I didn't know anybody else knew about that. BPD is where you think the world of somebody & they do the slightest thing - could be anything not even out of the ordinary - & its like they hate him/her. They honestly think that the person hates - or doesnt like them. They also have a hard time having any relationship because they are always afraid that they will be left on their own. They don't like being left alone. , or rejected. They are very unstable, & have a bad self image. There is a bit more - if you go to www.allrefer.com that may help. I think a Dr. may have to actually Diagnose you, & give treatment. I thought maybe I have this disorder. Not sure myself, but If your freind wants help go to a GOOD Dr., not a local one. Make sure they Know about these kind of disorders, I tried a local Dr., & they did not know a thing. Just thought I was phicotic. I hope this has helped. Good luck.

Answer 3

I have BPD they keep trying to change the name to Emotional Unstable Personality Disorder, I think the Emotional one describes it better. Unfortunately there isn't much available in the UK for people with this problem (in my opinion) America is way ahead of us on this one. I find the Schema therapy page interesting and I don't know 2 people who react the same way with this disorder which is why I think it should only be diagnosed by a professional. I have given a couple of links for Borderline Personality Disorder information

Answer 4

My sister has BPD, and life with her has been a living hell. She can't function properly in life without someone to lean on, yet shes alienated everyone around her. I'm raising her children for her because she wouldn't take care of them, yet she keeps getting preg. on purpose and having more. Just shows how delusional these folks can be. She actually believes things in her own mind that are verrrrrrrry farfetched! Has a distorted sense of reality, and scared of being alone, i.e., (she will hook up with the scummiest men, and friends) She constantly surrounds herself with low-life scum so she can feel better about herself. The saddest part of it is that BPD's usually are in constant DENIAL of their illness and refuse help, or don't follow through when they do start it. Good luck with your friend. In my experience talking to, reasoning with BPD's is about as effective as pouring gas on a fire!!!!

Answer 5

I had an Ex girlfriend with BPD, found out the hard way. Only a medical professional can tell for sure, but look for sudden, often violent mood swings; paranoid delusions (i.e. highly jealous/suspicious to the point of looking behind furniture); "stalking" behavior; bizarre and/or grandiose "plans"; a propensity to 'hide things', weird and often useless stuff. Regular substance abuse and of course, attempted suicide (usually badly attempted). This is based on my personal experience only. Get someone of authority to gently guide your friend toward counseling or, you can almost guarantee, the police will see to it eventually (my 'friend' was carted off in handcuffs). And be careful; these people can be very dangerous.

Answer 6

stewiegirl put it best as far as facts. very impressed. I have BPD and i have read all the posts and some are harsh on us but i guess i don't understand the other side of it. but the safest way is to assure her/him that you will stick by them if they need emotional support there is a therapy called DBT its dialect based therapy. I haven't personally done it but i hear its helpful. the one thing that no one really mentioned was there is medication for this and therapy. I know its hard to deal with BPD people but please hang in there just remember whatever they do they aren't doing it on "purpose" or trying to intentionally hurt you. I tend to do things and say things the wrong way and have problems with my husband alot. but i keep telling him i don't realize I'm saying it that certain way usually for me it sarcasm. i don't realize it but i do i guess. so just stick with them they will appreciate it believe me .

Answer 7

WOW!!! that is a hard one man! BPD=CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR!!!!!!! often times a person with this disorder will spread mis-truths about family and friends to one another! at the same time building him/herself up to be the best one in the picture. a person with BPD will also play the "victim" role when things do not go as planned. and things do not always go as planned as friends and family begin to understand they are in the midst of being controlled! it is difficult for me to understand if a person with this disorder really believes the mistruths he/she spreads. one thing is for sure and that is untreated this disorder will become worse with time and make it impossible to maintain any sort of meaningful relationship!!!! in my limited experience, this disorder is one of the ******* worst!!!!!!!!! if you are willing to stick around and help do yourself a favor and purchase full body protective wear! (bad joke, however you may consider talking to a professional as well) if you think you will be unable to handle such a task run for the ******* hills!!!!!!!!!!!!! RUN!!!!!!!!
mental illnesses are fucked up and sad! most of us would like to help the people that suffer, however this is not always practical. the mentally ill have a responsibility to function the best they can in the "sane" world. asfaras, finding out if your friend has this terrible disorder you are on the right path. research research reseach!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! if you are asking quetions that can only mean other friends and family have also noticed some thing is wrong. talk talk AND KEEP TALKING TO EACH OTHER!!!!! i wish you all the best.

Answer 8

I was diagnosed with BPD 5 years ago and it has been a rough roler coaster ride for me and my family, I currently run a support group which you are more than welcome to join
http://groups.msn.com/AHavenfromBorderlinePersonalityDisorder
There are some great books that can help the person with BPD and also the friends and familes who are trying to cope with some one with BPD. my favourite is called LOST IN THE MIRROW by RICHARD A MOSKOVITZ. you can check it out at amazon
http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/0878332669/026-2022549-7697210?v=glance&n=266239

Answer 9

BPD people usually start having symptoms by early adulthood and have to have at least 5 out 9 symptoms including a pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self image and affects, as well as impulsiveness.

they can have frantic efforts to aovid being alone, unstable realationships, suicidal, irritible, feelings of emptiness, inappropriate anger, paranoid thoughts

If they have most of these they need meds to stabalize and therapy as well.

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 10

its not exxist....some smart people try to show that they have bpd so people scare by him and always mark him... second sometime they think i have bpd and this thought automaticlly create all surounding environment. some time we think this perosn have bpd problem but in real may be he try to create different personality with different people..