I found out that i was pregnant when i was 13 weeks which was too far gone in my eyes to have an abortion. i don't think i could have gone through with it any ways but now i am scared about bringing up a child. my mum is supporting me by looking after the baby while i go back to college but i feel that i wont be able to bond with the baby. do you think it will be hard bringing up a child with just my mum as help?
2006-07-13 06:48:08 · 33 answers · asked by KaTiE 2K6 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You'll be just fine, and you'll bond with your baby, don't worry. You are blessed to have such a wonderful mum who is willing to support you and care for the baby. You can connect with other teens in your situation here:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php
You absolutely did the right thing in deciding not to abort your beautiful child. You will never regret protecting your baby. Here's some reinforcement for you:
Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
Take care of yourself. Everything is going to be okay. Yes, it will be hard, but it will be worth it!
2006-07-19 02:16:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it wouldn't b hard. Ur Mom sound really nice. U will still b able 2 bond with ur baby. Millions of mothers around the world go out 2 work or 2 school & still have a great bond with their kids. Good Luck & enjoy the joys of motherhood. That connection between mother & baby is very hard 2 break. U & the baby r already connected even though he or she isn't born yet. Babies r funny creatures. They will know u by ur smell & ur voice. After all, they spend 9 months in ur belly!
2006-07-13 07:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by triniallstar_4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Raising a child is the best thing that will ever happen to you. You will fall into a routine like the rest of us parents. It's not always going to be easy...it isn't for anyone. You can do anything you set your mind to. I'm proud of you for continuing your education, a lot of women in your situation would just give up. As soon as you have your beautiful baby and the Dr. gives that baby to you, you will bond. You'll be fine, you'll bond with and love that baby like nothing you can imagine.
Congratulations and good luck!
Jacob's Mommy
2006-07-13 08:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by Jacob's Mommy (Plus One) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 17, pregnant and scared.....guess that makes you NORMAL!
I had my daughter when I was 16, and my family was extremely supportive.
Having a child will no doubt change your life, and it's essential that you accept those changes. Your mother will be there for support, but this will be your child - you're going to be a Mommy so embrace all of the wonderful joy and responsibility that will entail.
You can go to school and make the best life for you and your child possible!
Don't worry about the bonding - nature takes it's course when that little bundle arrives in your arms.
My daughter is now 19......lol it's harder to feel bonded with her now that it was 19 years ago!!!!!
2006-07-13 07:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by Susie D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! you have to be confident; your child loves you and your mother's support is the best thing that could happen for you and your child; you have to know that mothers like you and your mother are very few around the world; the only advise i can give you is to be more careful next time because abortion is not a solution; "don't worry, be happy" you will soon realize that a child can bring you real happiness!
2006-07-13 07:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant at 17 had the baby 2 months after my 18th birthday. I stayed with the father I got lucky in that aspect but I can tell you that I didn't bond with my baby because I wasn't really ready to become a mom and to make it worse she had colic all during the pregnancy I wanted to give her up for adoption but every one told me not to do it and if I did they wouldn't support me (basically they would throw in my face every chance they got).
Her father and I are still together and she will be 7 in Oct but I can tell you she has more of a bond with her dad then she does with me if I tell her to do something she won't do it but if her dad tells her to do the same thing I tell her to she will get up and do it so it makes parenting very hard. My husband is never around to help with the kids when he is home from work he is a sleep even when we wake him up he goes to the couch and sleeps, then he gets mad because the oldest won't do what I ask her to. Yet he says he's to tired to do anything about it.
Sorry it sounds like I'm throwing a fit but in my opinion if you aren't ready to become a mom it is going to be very hard.
I love my daughter and I'm most of the time glad I didn't give her up for adoption because she is beautiful and at times funny.
So I guess I'm trying to say that you need to do what you think is best whatever that might be. Don't let other people tell you what to do or what you will or are feeling.
2006-07-13 07:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh course it is gonna be hard. But you have to be strong and I have faith in you, you will get through. Normally I am against abortion but you are just 17, so you can do some research on how big the baby is at 13 Weeks. And you might be able to get the abortion.
2006-07-13 06:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by Just livin my life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna be real with you!Of course it's gonna be hard bringing your child up. You are a child yourself, and I'm gonna assume that you are a single parent because you have not not mentioned the child's father(bastard). So that in itself will make 10 times harder. You are gonna have to learn a lot very fast in order to raise your child well. But fortunately to have your mom there to help you, and that's a great benefit. Stick with mom, she'll be your guide and always remember be determined and don't give up, because now more than ever you have to make something of yourself in order to make a better life for your child.
Good Luck
2006-07-13 07:37:40 · answer #8 · answered by sassytrini2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Katey - Bringing up a child is hard, no matter what the circumstances. As long as you are prepared to sacrifice (time with baby instead of dates, studying when the child is sleeping, etc) then you are doing the right thing. If it's a baby boy, try to find a positive male role model as he grows up.
2006-07-13 06:54:20 · answer #9 · answered by sagana_solus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad that you are scared, because it shows that you care! It's really cool that your mom is helping you out. I guess a lot of moms are worried about not bonding with their babies, even married one's when they have to return to work/school may have to leave their kids in childcare. It's going to be hard, sure, but you will be okay. Spend as much time as you can with your little one, take time for yourself too. You are okay, if you did not give a damn, that would be a real worry.
2006-07-13 11:03:57 · answer #10 · answered by someonesomewhere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋