I want my relationship to work I really love my bf. We been together for about 8 month. But lately whenever we talk we end up arguing about stupid stuff, he always brings up old stuff that I said, and I get so mad at him. I don’t know how to talk to him with out arguing, and when ever I get mad I tell him so, why are u talking to me still? Why don’t u leave me alone. I don’t want to say that I want it to work; I don’t know how to have a normal relationship. Please somebody help me I want to change I want him to keep talking to me not just say ok I will call u back and don’t call me for hours. So please I need steps somebody.
2006-07-13 06:30:17 · 9 answers · asked by sweet84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like your more interested in the relationship than him and you need to stop calling him and find other people to go out with. You've tried many attempts to reconcile and heal with him, but to no avail, he continues to behave the same way. Maybe it's time you start to evaluate that the relation that you've had between each other has passed and BOTH MUST move on.
If and when you make the decision to break-up, do it in a respectful manner. Don't do the stupid sh*t that other women do and create and situation where he calls for the break-up. In other words don't play games with him so he'll have the job of absorbing YOUR guilt about breaking up with him. Doing that will affect the way you have relationships with people and playing games always make you lose.
Make a clean break. Tell him in a very sincere (not mean or b*tchy and NO accusatory tone) that we need to go our own way and you wish to have no further relationship with him. Point to him that the many times you've tried to resolve the issue, that he didn't seem interested. After explaining that to him, you may experience him getting a little mad. That's only because his ego has been bruised (he'll get over it as most men do) and that's nothing for you to worry about.
*Shake his hand (if he'll let you) and bow out gracefully.
Someone has to be mature about it and that you.
Good luck and be well.
*Shaking his hand is significant because that's how the 2 of you met when you've greated each other. In other words, the relationship has come full circle.
2006-07-13 06:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by monkeymustard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship is not over. I was in shoes, we argued about little stupid things too. But I was the one bringing up old things like ex- girlfriends(bad choice on me). I just learned not to talk or mention things that would make us argue. Believe me it took us a long time, but if you really love each other anything is possible. Once you think about it, Life is too short to be wasting time on arguments. Oh yeah we have been together for 11yrs and now married for 7 months. Good luck!
2006-07-13 13:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by ilovedusomuch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody else is wrong, He loves you, but he has not found away to truly show it.. So he changes back to the 8 or 9 yr old kid that throws rocks and picks at girls.. by arguing he is also show a fear of commitment, he doesn't leave, because he may not say it but you've become a part of his life.. You can tell just by seeing where he spends his free time. If its with the boys, you haven't got him yet it. If its with you... he's yours
2006-07-13 14:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by southrngui 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi dear.
I don't know if this will help but why don't you start concentrating more on him i .e give more time to him, surprise him , and all the time tell him how much he is presuse to you.I think he is the one who is having problem understanding you, don't you think maybe he wants not to argue with u but some times he cant even get you,your feelings, your needs ... so show him all the time how a simple person you are and will see how much he will change.
Wish you the best.
2006-07-13 13:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by Clark794 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
miss...if u luv him...n want everythn 2 work between u 2....den always memba...move on & ignore da small fights...arguements between u 2....it makes da relationship work....
there r things u dnt like bout him...same way there wud b things he does not likes bout u....da best is....try 2 understand eachother more....& keep ur temper under control...
it hurts a lot wen u loose da 1 u love....i kno how it feels...
2006-07-13 13:40:56 · answer #5 · answered by moooooooovin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship is over.
2006-07-13 13:33:26 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. O'Clock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he treats you like that you dont need him. He is just puttin you down. Unless you like being treated like dirt.
2006-07-13 13:33:02 · answer #7 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep saying that - he'll go away.
Stop.
2006-07-13 13:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by Alexander Shannon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its better...if u end it....hes dominating
2006-07-13 13:35:51 · answer #9 · answered by M u Z z I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋