I know you're asking this of women who haven't had an abortion, however, I feel compelled to respond nonetheless.
I had an abortion over 15 years ago. It was the best decision for that time in my life. I had a 15 month old child by the same man. He was abusive to me. I foolishly allowed my loneliness, my hopes that he'd changed and his charm work his way back into my bed. Being depressed and having a toddler to take care of on my own, giving birth and giving the baby up for adoption were not an option for me. The hormonal changes would have wreaked havoc on me which would have affected my toddler as well.
Were I to be in that same place now, with what I know now, I would do it again.
Additionally, it turned out to be a good thing that I didn't go back to him since he's now a registered sex offender.
2006-07-14 07:15:43
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answered by Anonymous
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Burden or benefit is a matter of opinion. What it is is an option. I have had an abortion and for me that's what it was, an option. I already have one child and am married. At the time we were broke and without health insurance. We simply could not afford another child. My husband supported whatever decision I made because that's what it was: My Decision. He could voice whatever opinion he wanted but he realized he is not the one who's pregnant. Whatever your decision only you get to decide if it was a burden or a benefit. You can't make a general call for all women.
2006-07-13 06:27:03
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answered by Angelina DeGrizz 3
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Any major decision is a burden. Just because a decision is a burden doesn't make it bad. No woman is happy to have an abortion. What they are happy about is the right they have to make that choice about what is best for them and their bodies.
2006-07-13 06:24:10
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answered by sugarpine25 3
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I think every woman is different and therefore, she copes with her abortion(s) differently.
I think many woman have to carry a great burden of hurt and guilt. I believe that many times, it does not hit a woman about what she did and what she lost until she hits menopause.
Or perhaps when and if she is not able to conceive, or needs to go through multiple fertility treatments.--then a guilt and hurt factor would set in, especially if she had multiple abortions. I think the lowest rate for women to feel regret about an abortion(s) is when she in a way "got away" with it--in other words, it didn't effect her life in any negative ways, she went on to have a family and children and so forth, and she reasons to herself that she had to do it for any number of reasons to benefit her unborn child from living in a bad situation.
Overall, I don't think that most women are skipping in and out from an abortion procedure she had to get done, due to her own mistakes,
whistling zippiti doo da. I think most are very adahment in their belief that they did the 'right' and best thing,--even if they recant a year or maybe decades later that starts a grieving process. But I think most women go through some type of grieving process because they lost something although they might be confused about what.
However, according to Alan Guttmacher Institute, a research arm of planned parenthood, 49% of all abortions are a second, third, fourth and so forth.
I personally know a few women who have had five (that they admitted to, it could be more).
What this means, I think is that women absolutely ARE going in to get an abortion as if it were getting their tooth pulled, they feel more remorse of course than from losing a tooth, but there might be something psychological going on that makes them repeat the pregnancies and abortions. --It may have something to do with guilt and grief being processed in an odd way, or trying to make having an abortion a "right" or "natural" thing in their minds. who knows.
I have not had one, but I almost every woman I know, from my grandmother, to my friends, to my aunts, to even my friends mothers! has had one or several. I have heard many in depth stories about abortion and women's abortion experiences through knowing women, and I can say from that that I don't believe it is ever a benefit. It is absolutely a burden, though the way that each woman handles it and reasons it is different.
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I also have a friend that had an abortion ten years ago, and she too has recurring dreams of her son coming back to her and asking her why she didn't want him.
2006-07-13 06:23:27
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answered by Anonymous
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Although I have never had an abortion, I know many women that have. The one thing I have learned is that it is a hard thing for them to live with. Personally, I think it's a burden carried by women. A burden to live your life right and not do things that can result in something that is unwanted.
2006-07-13 08:50:31
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answered by heidielizabeth69 7
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I don't think anyone out here realistically thinks that women are "happy" to have an abortion. I can definitely see where it would be a burden to be in a situation where you're deciding between terminating or sustaining a life. So, to thoroughly answer your question (and just my opinion, by all means), I think it is a burden women put on themselves (majority of the time...there are those "freak" accidents to consider), first by having unprotected or "careless" sex (i.e. not taking birth control on time or skipping a pill, pull out method, etc.) leading to an unwanted/unplanned pregnancy, and then deciding whether to terminate a life. Yes, that would suck, yes that would be a burden that no one would be happy about.
2006-07-13 06:43:25
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answered by julesl68 5
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I have some very close relationships with women who have had abortions and not one of them feel it was the best decision they could have made. Right now they range from ages 15 to 40 and the 15 year old is severly depressed and the 40 year old has bad dreams. (her "son" comes back to her and keeps asking her why she killed him" she had an abortion 25 years ago.)
so no...i think it is a burden not a benefit.
2006-07-13 06:36:30
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answered by sweetheart_8286 1
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well i personaly feel that it is a burden to be put on a woman. for one if they dont have the child then the child didnt have a chance for life. but if the the woman does not want the child and can not take care of it properly then they are personally robbing the child of a loving family and not having to worry about when there next meal is going to be. the mother could also give up the child after birth but then it is hard for them and it would always be in the back or there minds it is a benefit but it isnt always so.
2006-07-13 06:34:49
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answered by spring goth 3
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No one should be happy with that decision. Burden or Benefit is up to the moral character of the woman.
2006-07-13 08:43:53
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answered by therandman 5
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I don't think any woman is happy to get an abortion but sometimes that is the best option for her!
2006-07-13 06:23:17
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answered by ♥Stranger In Maine™♥ (Thriller) 7
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