If my 1 yr old is screaming/crying for attention, how should i deal w/ that? I don't want him to be a whiner.

Answer 1

Two options...

teach him sign language. it's is very popular, and the kid can tell you what he wants, so he doesn't need to cry.

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I think you should for the most part ignore it. Once he learns that crying doesn't get what he wants, what is the use or crying. Same goes for whining. Sounds cruel, but in the long run you'll have a well mannered kid, if you teach him the right way of getting what he wants.

Answer 2

A one year old is not a "whiner" if they cry. Your child is at the age when communication is becoming necessary but still very hard to achieve. Put simply, your child is crying to communicate some need, whether hungry, thirsty, wet/dirty, sleepy or just plain bored. Top off those basic needs with the intelligence to know a specific thing you want but the inability to comunicate that to your parent and you get a crying one year old. I see where the advice is to walk away, but I disagree and feel more attention would be just the thing. You may not figure out what your baby wants every time but at least he/she will be comforted that you paid attention and continue trying to breach the communication gap. Good luck to you!

Answer 3

It kind of depends what the problem is. Are all the physical needs taken care of? you might want to check that first. There are a lot of reasons why a 1 yr old will become clingy. How's your relationship with the wee one's other parent? A lot of fighting or they are absent? That can cause your baby some distress. Are you overly distressed or depressed? Little ones don't handle that too well. Has your child been sleeping well? Over-tiredness makes em REAL cranky. What always worked for me was to usually give in to their need to have me in sight whenever I could, let them get in my way and make a game of it while doing housework etc (yeah it takes longer but it really makes it more fun), talk and sing to them, and make sure that I kept them on at least a rudimentary schedule. They WILL outgrow an obsessive need for you. One other thing I did that kept them from fussing too much ( and allowed me to monitor their physical needs better) was that I touched them as much as I could--hugs, kisses, dancing, playing, tapping their fingers when they were getting in to things, etc and I rarely yelled at them even when they were older. (I found they listen better when you yell if you save it for when they are actually behaving BADLY rather than just misbehaving or being annoying). I hope I helped a bit.

Answer 4

It depends on WHY the child is crying. They might need your attention. They might need changed or fed or something. Your child is only 1 year old so he probably can't talk all that much to tell you what he needs. Figure out if there is something he needs when he screams or crys. Make sure you are giving him attention and playing with him.

Answer 5

Hmmm!! He is only 1, there really isnt a baby that doesnt whine. You need to give him attention. Kids DO require that. He wont be a whiner , maybe a momma's boy , but thats not all bad. You cant give children too much attention.

Answer 6

if your 1 yr old is screaming for attention, give it to him. He is far too young to understand that youre busy or dont feel like paying attention to him. Try letting him play with some interesting toys, or play a game with him. Also try giving him pots, pans, wooden spoons and other kitchen utensils that wont hurt him. Sounds like he needs stimulation and is asking you to help. have patience, soon enough he wont want your attention, so cherish these moments now while you can.

Answer 7

First check if 1 year old needs the toilet.2nd see if 1 year old needs food/drink 3rd unless wants a hug from mum walk away and leave him/her to cry.I f you continually pick up then that will be what you are expected to do every time screaming starts

Answer 8

Give him attention. He'll become a whiner if you ignore him or if you criticize him for needing your attention. If you truly listen to him and respond appropriately (as if he's a genuine person who matters, which he is), he'll express what he needs to and then be content that he was understood.

Answer 9

If your child is just throwing temper tantrums for no reason, the best thing to do is let them. Just walk away. If they realize it isn't working, they'll stop. You can talk to him like an adult after he calms down. "Mom doesn't like it when you start screaming so she won't play with you if you do that." It's a phase. My neice just went through it. At first we catered to her every time she started screaming, but enough is enough.

Answer 10

start playing with them more and they with stop