Are there really still people out there who think being gay is a choice?

Answer 1

Sadly yes people still think like that. Homosexuality is a biological condition determined at birth. Now you could say they could choose to "live" a "straight" life. But please consider for a second if you had to pretend to be gay and live a homosexual life. Doesn't sound to appealing does it? Pretending to be something you are not over an extended period is mental unhealthy and everyone suffers.

Answer 2

Yes, of course there are. Why do you think states are preparing to ban gay marriages? The gay community has a long way to go to educate the straight majority that being gay is not a choice. There is an excellent article by Robert Epstein in the Feb/Mar 2006 issue of Scientific American Mind magazine that certainly opened my eyes and changed my attitude toward gays. I must confess that I now believe that it is wrong to condemn gays for something that is not their choice. Furthermore, if I get a chance to vote on it, I'll support gay marriage.

Answer 3

This is such a tired question.

One thing we have learned from Yahoo! Answers is that straight people thing gay people choose to be gay and gay people know that it was never a choice.

The straight guy who thinks he chooses every single day to be straight, it seems to me you may be something else and choose every day to be something you are not. Good luck to you. You are gonna need it.

Science is finally proving what gay people have been saying for decades. We did not choose. We accepted it.

The person who thinks gay people aren't really happy, but living wild and crazy lives. My life is terribly boring... but I'm so very happy with it that way. You don't know the state of my happiness or unhappiness. How can you assume to know that?

It is so strange to constantly see straight people explain how gay people end up gay. How the would you know?

Answer 4

You know, I think a lot of this questions revolves around the way in which the question is put. "Being gay" as opposed to"practicing homosexuality". One "is gay" because he practices a "gay" lifestyle. Are there reasons someone might be more susceptible to homosexual acts? I think so. But can you choose whether or not to follow that inclination? I think so.
There are negative consequences to following the "gay lifestyle". These aren't a matter of the hatred of others, they are the natural consequences of this choice. Homosexuals have a greater chance (in general) of getting HIV and eventually AIDS.
Even before AIDS homosexuals have a tendency statistically for their lives to be of shorter duration. None of this has to do with anyone's attitudes to homosexuality. It just is that way.

Most of us want to some things that we know are harmful to us at times. It's a matter of self discipline whether we do it or abstain.

That's my opinion.

Answer 5

I have several friends who are gay, and I've asked them if it was a choice or if they always just "felt gay". I get different answers from all of them. Some people, I think, really are just wired that way. Some have a tragic experience that influences their preference. Some just flat-out choose it. One friend of mine used to date women only, then he dated both men and women, and now he just dates men. I think if he was attracted enough to a woman he'd date her, but he chooses men. So he says he chooses to be gay. But then I have other friends who were never attracted to anyone of the opposite sex. I think it can go either way.

Answer 6

I don`t have a choice! I am heterosexual. I couldn`t be gay if I tried just like gay people don`t have a choice about being gay.

We are born with it!!! Unfortunately, there are still religious people who believe it is not natural.

Answer 7

I say it's a mental disorder and people have a choice to live with it or get help. To be gay is not a positive thing. I never see a gay person who is truely and sincerely happy. Just because somebody is having a good time being wild and crazy doesn't mean that is what happiness is.
Happiness is feeling free and content in yourself. I have seen most common that gays are suicidel because they know something is wrong in their life but they can not pin point what it is. They have self hate and low self esteems. Most common, they come from dysfunctional homes where either one of the parents weren't there for them, wasn't a good example, grew up with emotional, verbal or physical abuse, exposed to pornography at a very young age, sexually abused, rejected by the opposite sex and so on. People have different ways of dealing with their anger and pain.
Dating the same sex is an abomination in the eyes of God according to His word.


Romans 1
25 They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised. Amen.
26 Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. 27 In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion.
28 Furthermore, since they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done. 29 They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, 30 slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; 31 they are senseless, faithless, heartless, ruthless. 32 Although they know God's righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.

Answer 8

Being gay is a combination of genes, environment, and free will.

All three play some role. People who blame the first 2 for all their problems will never be able to escape the situation they are in.

Everyone needs to take personal responsibility for their actions.

Answer 9

Being gay is a choice. Think for a minute... if it was gene based... gay people would have weeded themselves out of the gene pool hundreds of thousands of years ago.

If it's not a choice and it's not gene based... then science says it has to be a disease. Which do you prefer?

Answer 10

I don't think "being gay" is a choice. There seems to be a genetic component. But I believe that giving in to it is a choice and is wrong--in other words, gay behavior.

I have a chronic brain illness, which is hereditary. It makes me get angry. I take medication for this, and if I choose to go off my medication, and the result is angry behavior, I am doing something wrong.

A gay person's sexual preference is not wrong, but his behavior is, if he gives in to his desires.