I have been with this guy for 2 years now, is it wrong to think about what it might be like if I was with someone else? I mean I want to be with him, I just sometimes wonder. Also we are thinking of moving in together do you think it would be trashy or a bad idea since we are not married, my friend told me she would never talk to me again because it was trashy to live together b 4 marriage!!!What do ya'll think?
2006-07-13 05:33:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. It's fine to think what your life would be like if you were with someone else. However, if you think about that and realize that you think it might be better that way, then it might be time to move on from the relationship.
2. I am a firm believer in the test-drive. Move in with your boyfriend if you really want to, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. In fact, it might let you know how compatible you really are. And if your friend is really your friend, then she might disagree with the idea of living together before marriage, but she'll get over it. If she cares about you and your friendship, she'll care about your happiness and what's best for you--and cutting off contact with someone is usually not how you show a friend you care about them.
3. Keep in mind, though, that living together does change some stuff. You've got to have a certain level of maturity to make it work, and both of you will have to put in the effort. If you break up, it can also be much harder if you live together because one of you will have to find a new place to live, and you'll see each other every day until you do.
So, move in together if that's what you really want to do. Your friend should understand your reasons and support you, however you decide. If she really stops talking to you if you move in with the guy, then it's her problem and not yours.
Good luck.
2006-07-13 05:43:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that living with someone before you get married is a good idea... my husband and i lived together for almost a year before we got married and it just assured us that everything was going to be all right. if you don't live with the person beforehand you have no idea what they will be like to live with them everyday and you may not be compatible in that way.
to answer your other question, since i've gotten married i often think about where i'd be or what i'd be doing if i had broken up with my husband before we'd gotten married; that includes who i'd be seeing. we are human and sometimes our minds just wonder, we can't help but think what if, especially in this world with a 50% divorce rate where monogamy is almost unheard of. sometimes i wonder where i'll be 10,20, or 30 years down the road, if i'll be happy or if we'll still be married or what, but the truth of the matter is everythign happens for a reason, there are somethings i wouldn't have done or people i wouldn't have met if i hadn't married my husband; so you have to think that however things turn out, it is all for the better in one way or another. good luck and trust me, you'll be fine
2006-07-13 12:41:32 · answer #2 · answered by dance_chica_2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ??? ok tell your friend its not the 1600's anymore and if she bases her friendship on you living with someone or what other peopel think of you living with him do you really want her as a friend.
i have been with my bf for two years and we have been living togethr for almost a year. its not trashy its maturity. these days you could afford to get your own apartment much less have two. its hard enough to support two people in one house.
We are both college graduates what are we supposed to do live with our parents????
If you think you can move in with him then do it .. I have never been happier :)
Do whats right for the two of you and not for what other people think!!!! (you'll be happier that way :) )
2006-07-13 12:39:32 · answer #3 · answered by tequieromucho2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's kinda natural for someone who's been on lock to be a lil curious about the other options that the world offers. i mean i do it too but it's not sinful or whatever, you are still w/your guy/girl & you still maintain your feelings for them. also about movin in...dont, cuz then they're might be temptations of the flesh. settle down after your 'I do's', unless you guys are past college then you can do whatever b/c there's no educational obstruction in your path or anything like that
2006-07-13 12:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by metronome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds fine with me i would have sex before marriage.
2006-07-13 12:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋