Recently I hosted a couples dinner at my home.There were 3 couples,one of which was a VERY conservative christian male.No alcohol was served;however the main course was cooked with wine as it was a mediterranean dish.The wine simmered for 30 mins.,thus boiling off the alcohol in the dish,but leaving the wonderful flavor of the grape.Everyone LOVED the dish as I got multiple cudos.
When asked prior to the dinner about the main dish,All I said was it was a Mediterranean meal that I think you'd like.The no-alcohol male in question loved it so much he took ALLOF IT leftover home in a ziploc container !
Heres the point of view:
ME: hey , it's 1 of my fav dishes and everyone loved it.The alcohol in the wine boiled off, so there's no alcohol in it. nuff said
My GF : Although you (I think) didn't do this in spite of him,it would've been nice of you to tell him it was made with alcohol
My rebut:That would've changed the entire evening ,and they may not have come.I told everyone the recipe
2006-07-13 05:21:53 · 16 answers · asked by frith25 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
to clarify; the dish was to be secretive just to enlighten everyones taste.the couples attending were the potroast & chicken type.The recipe was revealed After the cudos, and there was no mention of wine.
2006-07-13 05:45:29 · update #1
I think you are making too much of this. A christian does not usually mean they won't have anything to do with alcohol it just means they don't usually drink hard liquor. The disciples drank wine at the last supper. I'm sure if you mentioned it to him he would laugh. Because as you said the wine is for flavoring only and has no alcoholic quality after cooking it. Now if he had been a recovering alcoholic I would say you should have told him before hand.
2006-07-13 05:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by curiosity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The alcohol boiled off so there was no alcohol at the dinner. Even though the main dish was made with wine it boiled off leaving no alcohol. Your girlfriend's right to make you tell the guy that it was made with alcohol, but if you feel that you don't want to ruin the friendship and possibly ruin any other evenings with him, don't tell him. Sure, you're gonna have to live with telling a lie if you don't tell him, but telling him will make things worse than they are.
2006-07-13 05:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know many Christians who swear off alcohol all together except for Mormons, and since I'm Mormon, let me give you my perspective on it.
My dad makes chicken marsala (sp?) all the time. He does that with marsala wine. We don't drink at all in our house or anyone else's. But we consider the marsala to be OK as long as the alcohol is boiled off.
Your friend is likely of the same opinion when it comes to cooking, so he probably wouldn't be offended, and besides it sounds like you gave him the recipe, do doesn't he already know?
But if you are feeling guilty about it, tell him. Not telling someone something is just as deceitful as lying outright. You'll feel better if you just tell him, unless you gave him the recipe, in the which case, you already did.
2006-07-13 05:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by MornGloryHM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with serving the dish as you did. There wasn't any ALCOHOL in the dish. One doesn't usually divulge the ingredients in a dish unless they are using something the people can be highly allergic to such as peanuts. I know that I don't inform my guests what is in a meal I serve. Restaurants don't either, unless they are specifically asked. If that guy was that concerned about it, he would have mentioned it. You are right.
2006-07-13 07:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unless a person is an alcoholic, there was no reason to tell him. EVen the TASTE of alcohol can send an alcoholic back to drinking. In that case, you would be right to tell him.
But...you said that "they may not have come" - which leads me to believe that his man may have had a problem with it...and you deceived him because you wanted his presence.
So that might be questionable.
2006-07-13 05:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was no need to inform him that alcohol was used in the cooking process. Your friend doesn't like the effects of alcohol; you removed those effects in the cooking process. No harm or foul was created and certainly no mention of it should leave your lips.Your girlfriend with right intentions; is over reacting. Have Patience with her as its a learning process.
2006-07-13 05:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was no alcohol in it when it was done cooking, so what's the problem? Maybe next time you throw a dinner party, invite people who would appreciate it. Don't ask your GF for advice.
2006-07-13 05:39:42 · answer #7 · answered by sweetsinglemom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that the guy is opposed to the alcohol because of how it makes you act when its consumed irresponsibly. I would think he would be ok with it. Is he a really close friend? If so, you might want to come clean with him. Then, if he wants to partake of the dish again (which, by the way, has me hungry!) then its his choice.
2006-07-13 05:26:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many people who do not drink alcohol will eat foods prepared with alcohol. The alocohol will cook off (for the most part) leaving only the flavors
2006-07-13 05:25:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should explain to him the process of preparing that meal so that he won't jump to conclusions. In my opinion, you are right. THere was no alcohol so what is the big deal? There isn't one. His GF is just being crazy. But you should tell him.
2006-07-13 05:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by babyjay_babyjae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋