Lately my friends and boyfriend have been arguing alot and he has said some really nasty things to them. Feeling stuck in the middle i tried not to get involved but that made matters worse as my best friend got really upset about it because i apparently didn't stick up for her. Now all my friends are annoyed with me and aren't talking to me and i don't know what to do. They said that if they had a BF that said stuff like that to there mates they would dump him. I really like my BF and don't want to lose him but i don't want to lose my friends either. My friends have been talking about me behind my back and saying that i'm not sticking up for them but i always tell my BF to stop being lame abd was really annoyed with him but he won't say sorry because hes stubborn. I really don't know what to do because i want my friends back but don't want to lose my boyfriend. Please please help :(
2006-07-13 05:14:48 · 16 answers · asked by PinkBunny<3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds like an @sshole. Friends should always come before boys.
2006-07-13 05:19:05 · answer #1 · answered by Troy S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as someone who's already experienced what you've gone through I reckon the best thing to do would be to talk to your BF about it. If he truly likes you then he should stop being so stubborn and apologise to your friends, no man is worth losing good friends over, -ever-, because in the end who's going to be there for you most no matter what happens? Although I do think your friends should be trying to get along with your BF more as well, as long as he's the one that makes you happy.
I hope this has helped and it isn't too late.
Good luck hun!
xXx
2006-07-13 12:36:24 · answer #2 · answered by CrystalGenesis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is a difficult. However, the first thing I will say is this is not an isolated situation. In fact I even hated my best friends BF. However my best friend explained to me that he meant a lot to her and that she would really like me to try to get on with him. She explained to me that she loved him and that that was her choice, but my attutude was making it difficult for her. So, I was brave and spent time with him. And guess what? We now all live together and i regard him as one of my good friends. Have you ever talked to him about it? Maybe he has a opinion on the situation too? Also, confront your friends. You are there to be their friend and if they want you to "back them up" all the time, well, quite frankly thats not your job, they need to grow up. If they have the problem with your man, tell them to sort it themselves. You will probably find that they will realise that their opinions are not all that "rounded" (jealousy can fog the brain!).
But, do listen to them. Is there any possibility that they have a point?
2006-07-13 12:27:43 · answer #3 · answered by Interestingyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a prick. I'm sure there are friends of mine that my bf doesn't like. He never says anything bad about anyone, and if he does, it's confidential between the two of us. You want a man who can respect you and your friends. Guys come and go, but friends are forever. You want a guy who can be your best friend too. My guy are two peas in a pod. It took forever to find someone like him, but it was worth the search!
I would find a man who is more mature and knows how to act in front of young ladies!
2006-07-13 12:27:56 · answer #4 · answered by zagato_queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmmmmmmm tough one...you should ask your boyfriend to appologise because its upsetting you. If I was in his position I'd rather keep my gf happy than keep my pride in an argument with ppl I care bout (aka my gfs friends), if that makes sense. He mite go for that, if not then your probably best to stay on your friends side I mean friends are forever but bfs and gfs dont last forever, unless your in love with him ovcourse. But if your not in love I wudnt risk your freinds to be honest. I know it doesnt seem like it now but he certainly wont be your last boyfriend ever but your friends could be there for the rest of your life.
You've bsically gota work out what's more important to you.
Good luck!
2006-07-13 12:23:28 · answer #5 · answered by Michael W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really tell both your friends and your bf to grow up. I think it would most stupidest thing in the world to break up because your friends and bf are in-mature. Sit them down both together and say that you care about both of them, and I'm not going to choose between you 2. Then tell them if they care about you they would bury their defence's for you. That should really sort it out!
2006-07-13 12:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by quamig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to lose either, the best thing to do is just to keep them seperate and don't have your boyfriend around when you're with your friends, and vice versa.
2006-07-13 12:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever you have to do to keep your friends. Sounds like you should dump your boyfriend. He shouldn't be causing that kind of trouble if he really cares about you.
2006-07-13 12:24:00 · answer #8 · answered by Landslide 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the decision is completely yours but ill share a snip bit of my life to help you.
i gave up every friend i had except one for a girl, now im single. you can peice the rest of the story together yourself
2006-07-13 12:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by DEMON 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get real.your friends are part of who you are.If he doesn't get on with them why does he get on with you?Maybe he should try growing up before he enters a relationship.
2006-07-16 00:11:00 · answer #10 · answered by grandad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋