Every morning my bf goes to get coffee at a coffe shop near his home. Last wk I went with him to get coffee and this woman made sure she came to the car to say good morning to him - which I didn't say anything but felt uncomfortable about it. I spent last night with him and this morning he decides he's not going to the coffee shop were her normally goes to cause he claims that the depends who's working there will open a little late - I look at my watch and it's 5:15am the place should open at 5:00. He tell me that he'll go to the one that is near my home which is not that near. He goes in I watch him - he joins in a conversation with the clerk and a woman customer - next I see him leave the counter and start a talking to the customer for a long time. When got back to the car I told him that I thought I would have to come get my own coffee - I told him that you spent a long time talking with that young woman - he says "oh,she's not young she's 40yrs old, am I wrong for being pissed?
2006-07-13 05:06:39 · 20 answers · asked by Leila 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I told him that his actions this morning is appropriate - that when your with a woman you shouldn't do that - it's like your picking her up - and how did you find out how old she was in the first place.
2006-07-13 05:12:03 · update #1
Then he calls me this moring after dropping me off from from the coffee shop and never calls me "darling" I just think he can't control himself when it comes to women - I've seen this before but let it pass. Guilty as charged! Darling!
2006-07-13 06:49:32 · update #2
well it seems kinda odd first of all that some woman in the coffee shop earlier came to his car, and you didnt ask??? like i mean, you didnt say, 'bf, who is that woman that came up to you?????'. second, thats also odd that he went to the other coffee shop distant that the one close by, because it depended on who opened up....?? you didnt ask why???? and third, i think it might just have been a simple thing, you saw it and immediatly began to wonder, but you have the right. i would have said, '...and what? women walk up to your car to say hi, you go around flirting with 40 year olds now, what else do you do every morning honey???' kinda like to make him realize that your not so comfortable wiht what is coming up and plus what things do you NOT know about so far.
2006-07-13 05:15:03 · answer #1 · answered by sueet2b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's quite a story. I think you need a guy you trust; you certainly don't trust your current bf, so you are wasting his time and yours. I know if I had a gf like you that interrogated me every time I changed a routine or talked with a gal at a coffee shop, I would spare you the pain of thinking about this and dump you immediately. No amount of good sex is worth this crap.
2006-07-13 12:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by rightonrighton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough call
you need more information
I have a lot of women that I'm just friends with, and I'm sure if I had a girl that she would be suspicious. I'm a pretty friendly, outgoing person, smile a lot, laugh as much as I can without putting others down. So it would look funny to a girlfriend or wife. But most all of them are ones that I just wouldn't date, or they already have boyfriends. I absoloutely won't go out with anyone whose already seeing someone else.
but your guy could be cheating, you just need to find out more.
2006-07-13 12:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by kevrob8008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a chatty person, know alot of people and talk to many everyday.
Was there any hugging, hand holding, etc.?
Does he ever go out & you don't know where he was?
If not, then I don't think you have anything to worry about.
Why didn't you just ask him who she was or how he knew her or any other women he talks with?
I think you are more jealous than pissed, which shows you love him.
2006-07-13 12:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by sadie_oyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this guy usually this friendly with people or is it just with young looking girls?
does he keep things from you ever?
do you spend most of your time together or are there lots of times that he cant account for.
you should keep a close eye on him
but it is the job of the waitress to be friendly so dont fly of the handle without first knowing what exactly is going on
2006-07-13 12:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by satanmonsterlord 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should make sure that he's not cheating in you there's only one way to do that. PRETEND that you don't care.Let him do what he feels like doing and watch him all the time.If he'll know that you're jealous he'll try to do that behind your back.if he'll think that you don't care he won't try to hide it.
If he'll cheat on you just let it go and find somebody else for yourself.
Good luck
2006-07-13 12:12:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you wrong. you didn't see him doing anything sometimes people just like to talk to the other sex. if you see something going on then you have a point. one way you can let him know you don't like it, do the same it might give him the feeling you have but don't over do it it will only give him a excuse. you also might wanna check your insecurity's. if you over react you only gonna make things worse
2006-07-13 12:15:46 · answer #7 · answered by chatingmylife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is checking other gals out and maybe more. I would be a little leary about him at this stage. AND you are right to be pissed.
2006-07-13 12:53:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you've gotta ask him who she is, and how he knows her. If he doesn't know either of them, then that's a problem. If he has had a long history, it's normal to catch up with what's going on.
2006-07-13 12:10:27 · answer #9 · answered by Hot T-Bone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl if i were you i'd dump him and find someone.who really cares about you.cause he dosent care about you if hes talking to another woman right in front of ur face.you had every right to pissed off.I would have been if i were you. good luck
2006-07-13 12:13:17 · answer #10 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋