i had recently lost my baby 2 mnths ago and she as a sis never should me any support.she didnt called me to see if i needed anything or my daughter i am very depress and i feel as a sis u should be supportive no matter wat.i feel that because of my friendships with my childs aunt she is jealous and lets that come between us as sis. what should i do talk to her face to face or just email her a lengthy letter expressing my pain . because she really never feels shes wrong and is very stubborn and hard to talk to she thinks she knows everything.
2006-07-13 04:58:15 · 5 answers · asked by lu-lu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
sounds like it's time to realize that just because someone is your family and you love them DOES NOT mean you have to like them. if she has issues of her own and cannot be supportive of you when you need her... then look for support from other family members and friends... you need to make your own emotional and physical health your first priority.
find a good therapist in your area to help you through this incredibly difficult time.
good luck.
2006-07-13 05:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by Patti B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
re: i feel as a sis u should be supportive no matter wat
that would be true if both of you had been brought up and trained by your parents to be supportive, caring, secure and not jealous, non-defensive, etc.
i'd just do the best you can with your own life and try to train your own kids to be supportive, loving, helpful, caring, NOT JEALOUS (which is just a defensive form of fear and insecurety) and whatever else you can think of that is better than how you and your sis were raised. in other words, do a better job of parenting than your own (inadequate) parents did!
back to your sis, go ahead and talk or email or whatever you think may improve the situation but don't expect her to become aware that she was raised with such careless, unloving habits and could change if she wished to.....i doubt that she wants to change what has become familiar and comfortable for her from early childhood.
good luck with being a better parent than you had.
2006-07-13 06:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy the movie titled "sometimes in April". Watch it and then use it to express your pain on a letter. Mail both the CD and the letter to your sister. If she does not change, do away with her. You are a strong person, why should other peoples opinion determine your happiness? You will surely have another child - children.
2006-07-13 06:26:56 · answer #3 · answered by Femi T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with the email. I had to tell my parents that I was married and when I got pregnant through email because I was just never good enough for them. All my decisions embarrass them. Email works, without the pain of yelling and harsh words to each other.
2006-07-13 05:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am very very sorry for your loss. Does your sister have children? If no, Then she probaly doesn't understand how much pain you are in and may not know how to talk to you about it. You should have a long talk with her. Sisters and brothers are with us for life, and it is important to have a good relationship with her. Best of Luck.
2006-07-13 05:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by heather l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋