Ive been seeing a guy for around 5 months,im 4 years older he is 31,we both came out of long term relationships with kids a year ago,so at first it was just seeing each other for fun,no commitments,one minute he said he had feelings for me to make it official,then another time he called it a day cos he said it was geting complicated,then he offered friendship or sex to chose from,i chosed to carry on seeing him wotever as i had feelings for him,now he says i chosed the sex ,i never just wanted to see him,told him i had feelings for him,he knew this and he still saw me knowing this ,now he says he was in it for the sex and is trying to get back with his ex,told him didnt like the way he has treated me ,he cant make his mind up and i still like him and am hurt,he asked where do we go from here ,i said i dont know,now at his local there is a party and he said to come down with my mate but warned me that his ex will be the there as well. told him his ex will hurt him again if he goes back
2006-07-13 04:54:38 · 15 answers · asked by wendspoton 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Help what do i do and do i go to party knowing his ex is there
2006-07-13 04:56:28 · update #1
When ive been in the shower
I use a towel to wipe all over
The floor gets wet ,
Then being a useless tw-t
I wipe the floor with it too.
You are his towel
He BEING A USELESS TW-T
Is then wiping the floor with you,
So he can walk all over it and you
DUMP HIM
You can find better than him
I am a Moronic Imbecile
So what
I`M BETTER THAN HIM
2006-07-13 05:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by itsa o 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dump him Honey. He will cut strings and run whenever he feels like it. If he's only in it for the sex, he's not thinking about you at all. He's given you every indication that he will leave you for his ex and I really doubt you have the influence to make him stay away from his ex regardless of how she's treated him in the past.
Yeah, it's going to hurt like helfire and brimstone for a while, but it would hurt worse the longer you're with this guy. My grandmother stayed in a loveless relationship for 16 years loving the man the whole way through and years afterward too. He told her before they got married that when she turned 40 she would turn her in for two 20s, and sure enough, she got older he left her for two 20 year old women. She was hurt, but she did survive.
This guy is not going to magically see the light. Leave him. Do your heart a favor in the long run. It'll be easier for your kids too.
2006-07-13 05:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by Quicksilver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that not good for you and that is stupidiest thing I ever heard and I am so sorry to be honest with you is that he can't make up his mind about official and then other time it called a day cos???? and getting complicated?? then he offer friendship or sex to chose from... lady I think he seeing someone and that why he confused. If not seeing someone then he really have no people skill to understand that he need to understand that not to play your love and your life like that and kid too.... If you want to carry on then good luck and not listen what people try to give you answer then don't bother to ask any more question later on. Believe me that not good and you want to see him and he didn't stupid loser.
2006-07-13 05:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you know what you want out of the relationship, but he is confused. He needs to set himself straight. Its either having a relationship w/ you or just stay as friends. Both of you shouldn't be in it just for the sex, that make matters more complicated esp. you who have gained strong feelings for him. I think you should not go to the party. It will hurt you to see him with his ex. This will only bring more pain upon yourself.
there are other men out there who knows exactly what they want so leave him and let him be w/ his ex if he so desires. In the end if it doesn't work out for him then its his loss, but you gotta move on honey! Find a better man; one that will love you for you and not in it just for the sex.
2006-07-13 05:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by keamar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You came out of a relationship with a kid and rushed into another without allowing yourself to grieve the loss of the previous relation. You should stop seeing him as he still has to make up his mind about his ex. Staying with him will only make you more upset as he cannot offer you any peace. He doesnot seem to have any himself. Do not go to this party please and dont complicate things for yourself as you are vulnerable to be more hurt after this party. Allow him time to make up his mind about his ex while you can make your mind about him. Keep his mood swings in mind, which only goes on to show how undecided he is. Think things through and arrive at a logical sensible decision as to what to do with him. Just dont think about this party only but try to keep the future of this relationship in mind. Look for a person who can help you deal with your previous traumatic relationship rather than being in the company of some one who has his own issues to deal with.
2006-07-13 05:14:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please have some self respect lady! He is using you for sex and you are allowing it. Do not allow yourself to be treated this way - you are gorgeous and so many guys out there would love to be able to be with you and treat you in the good way that you deserve. Only go to the party for the right reasons - not just so you can see him. If you do go make sure that you go with a lovely looking guy and have fun.
Life is too short to be wasted on people like him. I understand that you will have developed feelings for him but please do not let him ruin your self confidence. Make the break and get on with your life.
Best of luck honey - life is for living
2006-07-13 05:06:17 · answer #6 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he still got feelings for his ex and you know that she is going to be there, you might end up feeling hurt again, I am sorry to say.
Best thing for you to do (I know it is easier said than done) find yourslef another bloke, theres plenty fishes in the sea and start enjoying yourself. An old saying from a friend of mine "if they dont want you - you dont want them".
I hope you will find yourself true love soon.
2006-07-13 05:03:19 · answer #7 · answered by Leungie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and i thought my love life was complicated!!
you need to take a proper break from this guy. if he does have feelings for you he will realise them once you have given him some space. it does sound as though he is really taking advantage though. you need some time on your own to work out who you are again as a person, not a person in a messed up relationship.
did you have much time on your own when you broke up with your last partner? if not then time on your own is exactly what you need. we all forget about our own identities when we have been in a realtionship for a long time. i recently left my partner of four years because i was part of a couple. i had no identity of my own. you need to find yourself and spend some time with your kids. if it is meant to be with this guy then it will bem but it sounds as though you need to find someone who can be honest with you and put your feeling first.
2006-07-13 05:11:44 · answer #8 · answered by queenjoef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think u should go to the party 2 see if he tries 2 do anything,just kind of follow him around see where he's goin' u might not wan't to take my advise I'm only12 but my mom taught me a lot of it so I'm sure u might take it.
2006-07-13 05:07:26 · answer #9 · answered by Sierra D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do is move on, while your messing around with this guy you could be passing up the love of your life! cut all ties with him and be happy. In my opinion he is keeping you there for sex while he sorts his relationship with his ex. i could be wrong, but unlikely.
2006-07-13 06:00:30 · answer #10 · answered by deviousgee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋