all the people i have dated end up leaving or really hurting me i dont understand why. why i cant find somebody who really loves me .
2006-07-13 04:05:47 · 20 answers · asked by chrissygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You will meet a thousand dorks before you find the one. The one you know was put on this earth just for you. Some people are lucky, and find that one, right away, others must wait and search, hoping that this next one is the one.
The one shining star at the end of this long tunnel is that for everyone, there is someone. Keep trying, he's out there, also looking for you.
Where oh where can you be????
2006-07-13 04:12:33 · answer #1 · answered by rudytute 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there, hon. I know what that's like. I didn't find a man that respects and loves me--he found me.
I learned how to respect and love myself. I took about a year off from all men to discover who I was. This I think is the key. Once you know who you are, you let the world see it without even trying. The right man that will love you will then find you.
2006-07-13 04:09:26 · answer #2 · answered by gg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem as u! for me i was with this one guy that was after all the girls and i actually gave him some sort of response because i thought they were actually into me. then id put out too soon and start to have strong feelings and by that time they will tell me that a relationship isnt in the future but we should be friends with benefits.
after i finally got out of that mess i finally realized i was just dating because i thought i should be and was looking for a connection with someone and i guess i looked needy to guys and that was a signal to them.
the only thing i can say is to really force urself to not want a relationship right now and concentrate on other things in ur life. when u least expect it and are not looking the right guy will come along.
good luck!
2006-07-13 04:13:09 · answer #3 · answered by mayami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say you teach people how to treat you. If it happens every time then you need to evaluate what it is your doing that is bringing on this kind of treatment. Are you too available for the man ? Too nice to him ? Did you open up too much about yourself ? Did you let them in your life too fast ? Only you can see the common denominator in what your doing. Some counseling wouldn't hurt either. If you dont fix what is wrong you will continue to do the same things and get the same results. If you want things to change you must change first.
2006-07-13 04:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it is all in your positioning. If you bend over enough times you are going to get screwed royally in rear. I hope you can understand what I meant. The trouble is you do not respect or like yourself. Before someone will like or respect you, you have to like and respect yourself. This has been & you probably heard this many times, but look at your relationships and past experiences. Once you take this to hart everything will fall into line. Good Luck.
2006-07-13 04:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by Tanker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are alot of bimbo's out there but there're also more guys out there that really respects and treat a girl the best they can (i'm one of them) but the notion that a girl will find them "boring" easily, keeps some of them from doing so and the remaining ones who does...get really hurt by the girl. They find it very hard to please the girl. If you think you meet a decent guy you should imply to him that you are a girl that knows the magical word " CHERISH ". I may sound dumb but that word played a critical role in repairing the damaged relationship i have with my current girlfriend, whom i love very much.
2006-07-13 04:27:07 · answer #6 · answered by Tosh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe those guys were a bunch of jerks who had nothing to do and started teasing u or they liked u and then they got over it because they found a ***** who is always available u know what i mean by available(who can do sex whenever, wherever) . Try to have patience and maybe u will find the one for you. Good luck! >:D<
2006-07-13 04:11:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
men will do what you allow them to do to you. set some standards for yourself. have some respect yourself. i'm not sure if you are sleeping with these guys or not, but if so STOP!! thats all most men want anyway! they will say and do any and everything to get the *****!! when you meet them let them know off the break, if they are looking for sex, they need to keep moving.... if he decides to stick around still be on guard because he may try to play the "friend" role to try to get you to lower your guards...
so to see if someone is really interested in you, first dont have sex with him, dont even put yourself in compromising situations...if he really is interested in you he will genuinely want to get to know YOU, instead of trying to have sex with you....take your time, dont rush into things take it easy...
2006-07-13 04:17:03 · answer #8 · answered by heresthedeal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the pattern of your relationships make you feel like you should change, or should you change the kind of guys you are dating?
Either way something has to break the pattern otherwise it ends up being your heart.
Focus on developing yourself, and the right guys will be attracted to you.
2006-07-13 04:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The saying goes, You teach people how you want to be treated. Take some responsiblity and change how you attract the guys you are attracting. Guys are dogs and proud of it. If it wants to be treated like a s.lut, that's exactly what they do. Make them respect you and you'll see a change, I guarantee it!
2006-07-13 04:12:35 · answer #10 · answered by LizzieBeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋