my man is living with his family far from where i am. but he used to visit me every month for one week to be with me. he loves his family. because i want him to feel that way to them. because i will feel the pain if his family will feel bad about him. lately i tried to keep away from him becoz of a priest's advice, but as if i cant stand keeping away from him. for me its never a sin to love him, anyway i didnt grab him away from his family i still want him loved by them..
2006-07-13 03:55:12 · 29 answers · asked by zandra zenaida G 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Let him be married and with his family...If he wanted to be with you, he would be. You are just sex to him, when and if he wants it he comes around! Or he just goes to his WIFE. You deserve better for your self!! Get someone who loves you and you can love freely!
2006-07-13 04:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. The guy that I am in love with is not married, but does live in a house with his two kids and their mom. I also try not to encourage him to leave, because his kids need him there. I have stopped initiating contact with him and am trying to move on. As far as being a sinner, technically yes, adultery ib any form is a sin. But you really have no control over who your heart decides to love, it's not something that you can just shut off at will. Just pray to God and ask for the strength needed to get over this guy, otherwise you'll spend your life as the "other woman" and you deserve someone fulltime, not just a week out of the month. Good luck.
2006-07-13 04:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by The Truth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to all the nay sayers honey! I'm in the same boat. I found love 10 years ago with a married man. I love him terribly! Although he has been seperated from his wife he is still legally married and I face constant ridicule. I've decided that I am happier with him than without so I intend to stick it out. Why people call love a sin is far beyond me, I don't consider falling in love a sin! Plus my GOD is a very forgiving God and I don't believe in hell anyway. I say if you're happy go girl! Good luck and GOD bless. He forgives all!
2006-07-13 04:06:31 · answer #3 · answered by luvthat88car 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A married man who thinks it is ok to cheat on his wife is more then likely cheating on you too..And it doesn't matter that you didn't grab him away it is still a sin for both of you to be doing what you are doing. If you found out he was cheating on you how would you feel? Now imagine that is his wife and family..Let him go and find someone new without a girlfriend, wife, kids..
2006-07-13 04:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by yooper49854 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes..u are going against one of the ten commandments(thou shalt not commit adultery!!!)(coveting someone's husband)....and if u knew he was married to begin with then thats just wrong!!!!Morally wrong...thats a very unhealthy relationship for u anyways,why don't u stop with him and find yourself a single guy??? Do u want to cause his wife pain??His family???Children??Cause just cause they don't know about it now...doesn't mean if u continue to do it...u both won't get found out!If u really love this guy..u would be thinking about his family too and what could happen if his wife and kids find out what he's doing...Do u what to tair a family a part and be a homewrecker???????WELL DO U??????????
Just cause u love him doesn't mean u can't behave yourself....u have a choice on how u behave and how u act!!!So if u know it's wrong u need to cut off all ties to this guy unless u can keep it platonic(which from what u say here i seriously doubt!!)...
Also of course that guys going to like this arrangement and keep coming back to u(his little bit on the side!!!!!)..and since u don't live around him...less likely to get caught!!!!Stop being stupid girl!!!quit letting him play u......and find u a single guy!!!NOW!!!!!!
Quit playing a fool!!! U should really listen to that priest he knows what he's talking about!!!!Oh and U can control yourself,your just choosing not too!!!
2006-07-13 04:38:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should stay away from a married man because if you fall and have sex then god will probably not like it, just be careful cause even certain thoughts of him can be sinful.
yes, we all are sinners but when we see sin or the chance of us falling into it, we should run away as fast as possible, even though it hurts. you have to think of the best thing for you ,. his kids, and for goodness sakes his wife!
Its okay to love him, but love him from afar. Dont make him sin too.
2006-07-13 04:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no commitment,I don't feel that it is your fault. The way i see it is that you have done nothing wrong.Unfortunately you cant help the way that you feel towards him. It would be a very uncomfortable situation to be in., however the man you. are in love with is making it very hard for you, he should be more honest with his family, that probably sounds a bit harsh however i would personally want to no if my partner had feelings for someone else so that i can get on with my life. I wish you the best of luck
2006-07-13 04:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a relationship with the married man...you're committing sin...in the eyes of God, I think he understands people like you who knows how to love unconditionally... but he's hoping you'll set the guy free...it's not the eyes of God that you should be afraid of----it's the people around you! some people will understand you, especially people who could relate because they're in the same situations...some people will condemn you...but God forgives!
2006-07-13 04:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this the typical ... "It is not a sin if I don't believe it is" question?
Why do people think there actions are so right is must not be a sin?
You would not say "I hate that guy so much so I killed him, but it is not illegal since I feel it is not"!
Or how about "I loved him so much so I raped him" that should not be illegal or a sin in people like yourself's eyes either...
2006-07-13 04:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by bone_daddys_waitress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between sinning and being tempted to sin. As long as you don't do anything about him, you are not sinning. But it is probably a bad idea to continue focusing on him. Sheesh, there are over 3 billion men on this planet! Pick someone -- ANYONE -- else.
2006-07-13 04:01:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are committing adultery and that is a sin in God's eye. Love is not a sin but to covet that which is not yours is. Friend, I am afraid this man is just using you, please move on and find someone worthy of you that can freely share in the love you have to give.
2006-07-13 03:59:43 · answer #11 · answered by Caleb's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋