i got pregnant 4 him&he doesnt want 2 settle down now bls he said he is payin some debt and want 2 settle his family member bl4 settling down,he his d major person financing his sibblings&other relatives,i ve 2 abort.i understand he play a key role in his family,he d issue of d pregnancy came up he told me there re alot of things he didnt tell me abt his finance so that i wont be scare,he accept that feeding a wife and child his not d problem but taking care of a weddind is d issue so inorder not 2 embarrass ourself we shd remove d baby,to be realistic i purposely got pregnant so dat he will settle down am 27,bls i want 2 settle down now and ve a family but unfortune it turn upside down.he said i shd give him till december 2 settle.now he is concern dat wat happen 2 our relationship after abortion but i still promise him dat it wont affect our relationship but deep down in my heart am disturb.i want d best 4 myself in life.shd i still wait 4 him or look somewhere else,is he sincere.
2006-07-13 03:48:54 · 37 answers · asked by Slash2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Firstly, you should not have got pregnant to try and trap him! Now you are pregnant stop thinking of yourself and your boyfriend and start thinking of this baby you are carrying. Do not abort this baby just to please your boyfriend, do what is best for you and your baby!! I think that after you have had an abortion your relationship is going to be over anyway so Stop thinking of him and do what you want!! He has made his feelings clear. He is not ready to commit to you and he may never be. I know you are upset right now and maybe you have some family who could offer you some support? Take care x
2006-07-13 03:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by happyflamepepper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cant even consider him right now. You have to think about what you want. If you haven't already had the abortion be absolutely sure thats what you want first. I am by no means trying to tell you what to do but i just know once you take that step you can never go back. He's right though about one thing it will affect your relationship. i have a friend who had an abortion and she regretted it later and felt like her husband made the decision for her so they ended up divorced. Also she never got pregnant again. Just think long and hard before doing anything and then do what is the right thing for you.Good luck
P/S. i have 3 beautiful children and i thank God every day i have them. They are what I am most proud of every day
2006-07-13 03:59:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand the part about he can handle a wife and baby financially but a wedding would break him......hmmmm! I'm pretty sure your getting strung along there. If you want to have this baby then have it, if you are already upset about planning to have an abortion then you will be really depressed once you do it for real. I don't think it was very smart to get pregnant on purpose but everyone has regrets so you have to make the best out of the situation. Do whatever feels right to you. Good luck
2006-07-13 03:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing with my Lil boi dad but he got me pregnant on purpose and he was my first i fell in love with him and I put up with alot of craziness with him cause I was tryna make a happy family but after my Lil boi was born everything went ballistic and I stayed hoping in praying that it'll work but instead all I got was a Lil boi I'm taking care of by myself and doing a damn good job He's five yrs old I wanted to give him up to and I was going to calling places an all but I decided to keep my baby he didn't ask to be ,made but now he's here if you know your not ready for no kids you should use protection I found out my sister cant have kids and she want one bad and then I realized I was Blessed a child is a gift think abut somethings this might be your chance
2006-07-13 04:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by THAT G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump his sorry *** like a hot potato! Any jack- **s that won't tell you the truth and plays you to get pregnant then says "oh, I changed my mind about wanting a baby" doesn't deserve anything a wife and child has to offer! Maybe I am a little old fashioned here, but aborting the baby is a stupid, cruel decision! That child didn't ask you to lay on your back and get pregnant just to hang on to a LOOSER!! You made your bed, NOW LIE IN IT!!
2006-07-13 04:02:19 · answer #5 · answered by onewikkedwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first u dont get pregnant to settle down first i think you need to grow up if i understand right u had an abortion there are alot of people out there that would love to have a baby you just dont get pregnant and when things dont work out abort them you only care about what is good for you and your not thinking about anyone else things in life need to be planned out a baby life together etc. and if deep down in your heart u r disturbed get help
2006-07-13 04:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by linda h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think you have only got yourself to blame. You treid to trap this poor guy into marriage by getting pregnant knowing that he has other responsibilities.
What kind of life is that to give a baby?
If you want the best fro yourself then get yourself a job, don't rely on a man to deliver it for you. You have plenty of time to start a family when you have a job, a house, and a stable and committed relationship.
2006-07-13 03:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your heart if you are disterbed with him. Then you have to let him go. Tell him not until he is ready and stable in decisions will you take him back. Tell him you will be seeing other people. I would never had aborted a child that I wanted. I would have never let him talk me out of it. It looks like he is trying just to string you on. Leave see what else is out there. Who knows maybe someone better is waiting for you. It is not an embarssement to have a baby out of wed lock.
2006-07-13 03:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweets, think of the baby and you. Yes, if you have an abortion, it will destroy you emotionally. You will learn to hate him for making you get the abortion. If at all possible, work. You can support your child and you without a man. He sounds selfish and mean. Do not wait for him...if he loved and cared for you time would not be an issue.
2006-07-13 04:08:21 · answer #9 · answered by sassper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him like a bad habbit! Don't ever get pregnant unless you know for sure your man is genuine and going to stand by you. And for the love of God take some English lessons and stop with the horrible grammer!
2006-07-13 03:51:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋