If you were dirt poor would you put your kid up for adoption so he has the chance of a better life?

Answer 1

I am saddened to see such negative responses to this question.

The decision to place a child for adoption is one of the most difficult decisions a parent could ever make. It involves alot of forethought, insight, and maturity.

I know. I placed my son with a family that I picked out (throught an agency) at birth, by choice in July of 1998.

He is now 8 years old, happy and healthy as can be. His family is very loving. He understands that he was adopted. I see him every Christmas, and calls me "Becca." He knows that I am his birthmother. His family keeps me updated with pictures and his report cards...and I am always there to answer questions regarding medical history.

He has everything that I could not give him when I was 19. I had no family help, and was practically homeless. What was important to me was the quality of his life and mine. He has travelled the world, going to places like Italy and Jaimaca. His mother and father are warm and caring parents, and I know that he is in the best possible situation.

I am proud of my choice!

Answer 2

i am dirt poor, and there is no way in the world I would consider putting my son up for adoption. i am going to school full-time to become a RN so that I will be able to provide a better life for my child and myself.

i didn't ask anyone else if my child should come into this world and i will be damned if anyone else is going to raise my child! we are a unit and work well together, he gets it that while things pretty much suck right now, they will be better in the not so distant future.

Answer 3

No, I would look for a better job, return to school or take on a second job. It is amazing how little a person can live on. Surprisingly, you don't need cable/satellite TV, cell phones, nice cars, a ton of clothing or a lot of shoes. Children can get by on the basics of food, water, clothing and shelter also. Loving parents are what raises a good child, not how much the child owns.

Answer 4

I would not do that! If I were that poor I probably would not have had a child in the first place, but in the case that I did, I would work on bettering myself that way I could get a better job which in turn would make a better life for my family. Never abandon your children under any circumstances! If I had to hustle on the street to feed my child I would!

Answer 5

NOT AT ALL ,,,,,,, If you was dirt poor as a parent you would do something about it like get a job but most of all whats more important in a child;'s up bringing is love, affection, and warmth

Answer 6

With the welfare equipment, no man or woman is ever extremely undesirable in this u . s . a . very few if any human beings conflict through from absolute poverty we do notwithstanding conflict through from relative poverty in that the wealthy have plenty and the undesirable have lots a lot less. yet when i became in a subject matter the position I suffered from absolute poverty then i'd put up my toddler/babies for adoption to do the superb difficulty by my toddler. after all isn't that the region of a figure to seem out and after their toddler surprising pastimes. i could not in any respect take earnings of my toddler, to me in my opinion it is going hostile to my own set of ethic's.

Answer 7

Aside from all the separation issues, that seems like an enormous risk to me. I'm not especially comfortable rolling the dice with my own future, and I think doing so with a child's, even if one was in dire financial straits and imagined better outcomes, seems a little sketchy.

Answer 8

ABSOLUTELY NOT.....I couldn't live with the guilt afterwards and the child would grow up thinking you didn't want him. You gave birth to that child so you have a responsibility to raise him. Are you looking to sooth a guilty conscience and if so, you won't get it from me. If you didn't want the child, you should have used a condom, birth control pills, something and there is many t hings on the market however, you didn't, you must be a father to your child.

Answer 9

if I was absolutely unable to provide them with food and shelter then yes I would give them up to family, I would never put my kids in a position to suffer. If I ever had to do that I would be sure to do something about my situation in order to bring my children home to me as soon as possible, not leave them with others forever.

Answer 10

Yes. Great Expectations style