I used to be so independent! it's horrible feeling like this...
2006-07-13 03:38:58 · 15 answers · asked by Cina 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand totally! You need to begin doing things by yourself & FOR yourself again. Take a class - even if it's only aerobics or pottery - & spend an evening away from him. Don't go off the deep end & not see him for a week at a time or anything! but try to do things just for you. Go for a manicure, spend an hour at the library reading magazines you don't subscribe to, cook dinner for your folks or a family member you love to spend time with. If you have girlfriends, institute a "girls only" night out - chances are they miss you! Don't lose you - after all, that's what he fell in love with! Good luck -
2006-07-13 03:44:06 · answer #1 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HAHA...I used to have this issue. Isnt it a horrible feeling when you look around and notice that most of your friends have vanished? How bout when you call your boyfriend so much and for some reason he either never picks up or your the only one calling him and he's busy?? I think this is only a period of time that you feel it. The best advice I can give you, assuming that you probably wont follow it because most people continue to do what they want to do anyway, is to try and occupy your mind from being stuck on him. Don't make it so obvious where your like "O hey babe, I'm trying not to rely on you so much so i got a new hobby". lol...Thats not gonna work. Guys like to feel needed I think. But not so much where you exhaust the poor man. He has a life too whether your in it or not. So, limit yourself from talking to him so much on the phone and the phone calls and visits. Don't be so depepndant because it'll nip you in the butt later. TRUST ME. A relationship is just that...a relationship. It means that anything can happen. Don't find yourself waking up one day and you have no boyfriend and no frineds to cry on because your life suddenly shifted and revolved around him and now he's gone! That feeling is so crappy. lol. Do you ever ask him if he needs anything? Go out of your way to buy him lunch and take it to his work or wherever? Believe it or not, things like that are sweet and they appreciate you more for it. It kinda feeds their love for you. And it's bonus points....HAHA. So don't sweat it. Treat yourself to a night with the chikas or a night of relaxation from the exhausting world you live in. And have fun with your relationship. It won't always be like this unless you let it. If your starting to feel like this, then you know to do something about it. Well, Good Luck!! Take care.....
2006-07-13 03:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by Cloe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I had an ex-boyfriend who was needy, and I wasn't in to him as much as he was in to me. That is until he added a part time job to the full time job he already had. All of the phone calls, text messages, and drives to my house, decreased greatly. Suddenly, I found myself being the needy one. I began to initiate our calls and dates unlike before when he always did. I think he's just taking you for granted because you're always there for him. Like the others said, get involved in more things outside of him, and he'll begin to realize how good he had it. Like the saying goes- you don't know what you have until it's gone.
2006-07-13 03:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the problem is with you. Now that you realize it - TRY to become independant again.
That means going out and doing things on your own. Stop revolving your life around him. Go hang out with friends and do things you like to do. He's going to stick around, he's not going anywhere unless you 'drive him away'. So go out and have a good time and then have a nice time when you're with him. Stop calling and clinging on to him....just enjoy life. =)
If not he might ditch you for someone that is. Clingy people are not appealing.
Not trying to be harsh, just trying to help. I want to see this work out for you. Good Luck!
2006-07-13 03:42:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 18 a friend told me "never need a man, just want one". You have got to get to this point, and when you do, he or someone else will appreciate you more. Men DON'T like NEEDY woman, so go back to being you, the independent woman he met.
2006-07-13 06:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him how he feels about the relationship. It's all right to need someone every now and then but you don't want to be dependent on him.
2006-07-13 03:43:25 · answer #6 · answered by cheonica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Test his love for you for example u r leaving on a trip for 1 week alone and see if he calls u if he does that means that he misses u if don't he didn't felt u were gone
2006-07-13 03:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him - you will just have to stick it out. Men are always buzy with a million projects and you never see them.
You are lucky if you see them on saturday evening and they stay untill sunday.
2006-07-13 03:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by veronica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him need you
2006-07-13 03:41:08 · answer #9 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good news! The person least committed to the relationship will always be the the dominate partner because it is he or she who is least willing to compromise. :)
2006-07-13 03:48:42 · answer #10 · answered by stef s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋