What would be an okay age to have a talk about the "birds and the bees"? What type of advise would you give to a single parent about talking about sex?
2006-07-13 03:16:23 · 5 answers · asked by osunumberonefan 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
well my mother started from young, about the sex speech and she still is, well when i was young she was like don't let any one touch you, you know where,and if it ever happens tell her, as i got older she would tell me that sex is what people do to show their HUSBAND their true feelings about eachother, and notice the husband, b4 ur child goes and does it with her bf and then she'd be pregnant, my parents believe in no sex b4 marriage i don't know about you but to save you the trouble of being a grandma, i suggest you let her know it's after mariage. you know how you feel about sex, tell her that but not too detailed, it's about your feelings for your spouse, and not for fun. it's serious, i think she should have known this from at least ten and control her tv veiwing please.in case she gets any ideas.i hope you figure out a way if u didn't get help from me .
2006-07-13 03:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by d boss 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should talk to your kid(s) about the birds and the bees at an age early enough where they still listen to you and understand what you're explaining, but not too old where they think they know everything already and feel uncomfortable with talking to you about such things. I would say that age is between 10 & 12. You have to feel it out with your kids. However, if they start asking you questions about sex earlier than that age, don't ignore them or make up answers. Always be honest and don't make them feel embarassed or ashamed. This may help ensure that they will be open with you & come to you for advice.
As far as being a single parent, I think that it's very important for you to set the example. You can't behave a certain way and expect them not to do the same (such as promiscuity and sleep overs). It's your right to date and have sex and such, but when you bring kids into the picture you have to be more careful. If you try to hide it though and they find out, they might start to think you're doing something wrong and they will hide things from you in the same manner.
2006-07-13 10:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by Pumpkin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally have talked about sex, drugs, etc. with the kids since they are able to communicate. My philosophy is the earlier they understand what is right and wrong, the better moral judgements they will make as teenagers. It is better ingrained into their minds. Just be careful to use to appropriate language for their age. This birds and bees talk should be the same for a two-parent houselhold, as well as a one-parent household.
2006-07-13 10:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by Pam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was fortunate to have a very wise and understanding pediatrician while my children were growing up. Some of the best advice he ever gave me was regarding this,
His advice: Answer any questions your children have, factually and honestly. But answer only the asked question. As they get older they will ask additional questions, which you can answer in turn. Just remember to answer the question and not go into a discussion that will be over their heads.
Sometimes too much information is just that.....too much.
Being a parent is hard work, being a single parent is twice as hard. Just remember that children learn more from their parents behavior than from their conversation.
Good Luck and God Bless
2006-07-13 10:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by Grannie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always just let the kids ask and than gave them the real answer..
2006-07-13 10:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by catnap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋