My ex has a brain injury which has lead to her having memory loss. But not extremely bad memory loss. Her ex?

Question

boyfriend showed up to her house one time when i wasn't around. They ended up getting intimate. I found out from her lil nephew, cause he saw her do it. He told me about it. I comforted her, but she denied it. She finally came clean about it. I asked her why she lied to me, she replyed, she didn't know how we were on terms in the relationship. What made me even madder was when she said, what you don't know won't hurt u. I didn't buy what she told me. For one thing, we were together nearly 2 years, and she was always able to remember the nasty things she enjoyed that her ex's did for her. She use to always tell me what they would do for her. My question is should i had looked pass it because of the brain injury, or does it sounds like she used the injury as an excuse, to get pass the fact that she was wrong.

Answer 1

How is her memory with other things? If she can remember everything else, chances are she can remember that. What does the doctor say about her memory? If she didn't know where your relationship standed then she shouldn't have did it until she found out if she was in a serious relationship with someone else. The statement "What you don't know won't hurt you" is very odd. That makes me think she was trying to get away with it. If you really want to be with her, keep your guard up and look for more suspicious things. Chances are, she will do it again and that will tell you everything you need to know. If you can't handle what she did to you, then move on. You will find someone else better and you deserve better. Good luck.

Answer 2

The injury was an excuse. An excuse can oly be use so any times b4 it is not believed. I think I would remeber cheating on my BF even with brain damage. It's not something you'd forget. You did the right thing to break up with her.
Cheating is bad enough but pretending you don't even know when you truly know you've been caught.