She told me last night. Actually, he hadnt even broken up wiht me yet. Im so mad, what should I do? HELP
2006-07-13 02:36:52 · 20 answers · asked by Shannon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, that is not cool. A true BFF would not do this.
No boy or girl is worth crying over, and the one who is won't MAKE you cry.
I think you should call her up and tell her calmly that you can't be friends with her anymore that her actions are not those of someone that cares about you and the friendship.
I had to do this once and it was very very hard, but it was the best thing for me because only then could I stop living in the drama and move forward.
Good Luck.
2006-07-13 02:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by Twinkerbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw this story in a comic book and I thought it's really true:
A woman goes to a wise man to ask exactly what you asked: "my best friend is going out with my boyfriend who left me! I'm so desperate and sad!
What should I do?"
The wise man told her: "You should feel very lucky and happy!"
"What? WHy do you say that?" - the woman asked.
"In the same day you got rid of a bad friend and a man who didn't deserve you! Imagine if you kept thinking they were your friends and respect you, when in reality they didn't? This way you found them out, got them away from you and are free to find real friends and a man who loves you above all. You should be really happy!"
I found the story really good and makes you think!
Hope it helps!
2006-07-13 09:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by Mary7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT IS HARSH.
Let her know that you thinkthat it is offensive that she's going out with ur not even ex yet bf. Tell her it will take a while to forgive her but your going to support her through it (because you pretty much know he's going to break up with her like he did withu, so be there for support when it happens.)
Tell your exbf that you hadn't even broken up with u and how DARE he ask another girl out while you are together!!!!!
Tell him that there is no crawlin back at this point. If he breaks up wit your BFF thenhe asks you out again tell him "NOPE" because your trust is gone and it will take a long time to repair. Tell him youre mostly mad at him becauseHe asked her out. (Well. . . If I was in this situation I would be more mad at him for asking her out then at her for saying yes.)
2006-07-13 09:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by GalPal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that really sucks. I can sypathise with how angry you are. Time will help you get through things, though that doesn't help at the moment, I know. If he's going out with your ex, already, I'd say they were likely fooling around for awhile behind your back. So at least you know and don't have the creep(s) in your life.
2006-07-13 09:44:18 · answer #4 · answered by Catherine n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm really sorry hun. what he did was really messed up-- he doesn't deserve you-- @ ALL, and remember, what comes around goes around.
your friend isn't in the safest position, because this boy could do the same thing to her that he did too you. as with your "bff"-- she obviously wasn't if she went ahead and did this. it's one thing to date your bff's ex after a while and if it's OKAY with your bff-- but this, no. this is just messed up. i'm sorry hun-- just be thankful that he's off your hands now-- and that now you know what kind of person he TRULY is.
2006-07-13 09:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by jetters007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friend and see what her side of the story is. Maybe he told her that you broke up with him and she sees him as fair game. I wouldn't start the hating yet before you get her side of the story. believe me, my friend started going out with my bf (at the time) but he told her that I dumped him and how he was so lonely, etc etc... They started going out and I found out about it and immediately told her off and threatened her and him. Turns out, she thought he was fair game because he lied. So then we both ganged up on him and shamed him in front of his friends. Now he's single and lonely and everyone knows what a dog he is. And me and my girl have made up.
TALK TO HER..... Try to work it out like adults. And good luck.
2006-07-13 09:46:07 · answer #6 · answered by chem_princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on how long ago you guys dated..its still messed up that she did that ...if if was like right after you broke up shes not a true friend..she should be there for you .but i wouldnt go for revenge...thatll make you look like the immature one...i would say let it go ..maybe give you and bff a few days to cool off...and watch to see if they work out or not...your and mr.ex broke up for a reason..and if bff doesnt realize that shes dumb...shes supposed to watch your mistakes..thats how me n my bff do it..but we dont date each other x's..hope i helped..-K-
2006-07-13 09:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by kmspoiledbrat78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a couple of immature losers! Get over it and get on with it because he's a complete jerk, and definitely get a new best friend. You deserve better.
2006-07-13 10:14:44 · answer #8 · answered by jellybean24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the two of them alone they deserve each other. Make friends with someone else. Friends do no do what those two have done to you. They do not deserve your friendship.
2006-07-13 09:47:35 · answer #9 · answered by Ycul72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd shake the dust of both of them off my feet so fast.
Get out girl they are bad news. DUMP THEM BOTH. Do not let either of them convince you they are friends or even nice people.
2006-07-13 09:47:54 · answer #10 · answered by Celtic Tejas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋