I have a bf and all he talks about is sex, cars, house, money, and his job every day. This can get very boring after while b/c all he likes to do is talk about his self and his accomplishments. Nothing about me. I told him about being so materialistic and just talking about the same things every day. He got very offended,and told me that it was a part of him. It is turning me off and I am not happy with that and dont know if he really cares about me being happy. I know for me to be happy in the relationship he would have to be willing to make it work and change a few things. I really want him to be apart of my life, but I dont know how to approach him again about this problem.
2006-07-13 02:33:13 · 12 answers · asked by Amenity 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As he seds it's apart of him. And if it's apart of him then u can't change that. Relationships are all about give and take and it's looks like he just self absorbed with himself and doesn't pay any attention to u. Try and talk to him again and tell him how he makin u feel. Explain to him that there are more important things in life. Hope this helped. I would be grateful if u could answer my two questions :)
2006-07-13 02:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just have a sit down with him and talk about it...BUT make sure that you are not talking with an attitude or trying to get loud because then he will not want to talk. My motto is talk it out and if nothing changes then he doesn't care and that's his loss. He must be real hot or something cause it sounds like your not that interested in just from your email. I hope this little bit of advice helps but don't ever compromise yourself for someone else relationships is about communication and obviously he doesn't understand that aspect of the relationship world yet
2006-07-13 09:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by rach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's how he is. What else do you want him to talk about? Do you ever bring up other things to talk about? If you bring up other things and he blows you off then you should approach him again and tell him you are getting tired of sex, cars etc...
If he isn't going to change and you need someone that pays more attention to you(nothing wrong with that by the way) you're going to have to end it.
2006-07-13 09:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by murfeezlaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he want to brag about his accomplishments that is choice don't let it bored you, if the sex is not good find some one Else who can give you what you need, two is better that one, people with love problems must always remember to buy a bottle of honey and keep it in the bed room
2006-07-13 09:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by boy_jam_arch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy answer to this problem.. Your boyfriend has to be made to understand that his going on about this stuff is hurting you. If he doesn't then it seems you have a very egocentric man on your hands. You are not the one causing the problem in your relationship. If he cannot see that and take action to adjust a litlle he is going to loose you... Maybe you should tell him that..
Right now it's only boring... If it goes on it will start driving you up the wall!
Good luck..
2006-07-13 09:40:03 · answer #5 · answered by japjongetje 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change boyfriends... It sounds like your not happy, so why stay in a relationship? Find someone with the same interests as you....
2006-07-13 09:41:38 · answer #6 · answered by wittster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you have to do,he is got to be dumped.could you honestly put up with his self centredness for the rest of your life?answer is no.He would drive you crazy,it would constantly annoy you.Do yourself a favour and find someone you are compatible with.You are wasting your time.He is a lover of himself.you need mental stimulation,a decent conversation.
2006-07-13 09:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to be with someone who only talks about and cares about himself? He's his own greatest fan. They call personalities like that Narcissistic. It sounds like he's so busy loving himself that he has no time for you. Unfortunately, I'm meeting more and more men with this problem. I'd dump him and find someone who genuinely cares about you and wants to know more about you. You deserve it.
2006-07-13 09:40:13 · answer #8 · answered by Astro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you dating my ex? Sure sounds like him....LOL
He will never change, no matter what he promises you. So either learn to live with it and be happy, or move on.
2006-07-13 09:42:04 · answer #9 · answered by Buttercup 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your self worth based on him?
He is into sex,cars etc. you are not. move on. He is not the right person for you.
2006-07-13 09:39:53 · answer #10 · answered by mike g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋