How does a persons relationship with their father affect their love lives?

Question

Other Questions I need clarification with in this regard:
1. I seem to like guys who are a shelter for me, some1 i can cry to & who can provide me with that comfort. What duz this reflect on the relationship I had with my dad?
2. Have YOU seen a reflection in ur relationships, 2 the one u had with ur father?

Answer 1

you asked a really good ?. i'll try my best to answer it. my relationship with my father, is absolutely horrible. he's an alcoholic and abusive-- and i find myself with guys who are strong, not just physically but emotionally and mentally, a guy who i know will shelter me like you said and can deal with my emotions and my pains. i'm thankful because i've found that-- and i know that that relationship with my father had a BIG impact on the men i choose to be involved with. but then again, sometimes the relationships you have, don't reflect what you had with your father. some women burry it deep and act as if everything was always normal, and sometimes that screws things up later on. if it shows in your relationships, that not neccessarly a bad thing-- because your man should know about you and your relationships with your family-- whether you guys get a long of not.

in my relationship, i do see reflects sometimes. sometimes when my boyfriend and i get in an arugement and are both really heated-- and he yells, i kind of flinch (he would never hit me or anything like that-- i know that, and god knows that) because my father used to yell @ me like that and then hit me or knock me down or something. i also cry, A LOT. i'm really emotional and what you go through growing up DOES make you who you are along with a lot of other things.

i just realized i totally assumed that you had a bad relationship with your father-- i'm sorry about that. i hope you had a good one though-- this was just my experience so i thought i'd share. hopefully this helped. >:)

Answer 2

My dad was a abusive person and he did very mean things to my mom and my siblings, i have heard the rumor that you marry someone that had the most "dominant" personality in your life. So lets say ur mom has a more dominant personality than ur dad u would marry somebody like her..........My personal expirence i tend to go to guys that are quiet,sweet, and are easy for me to talk too.

Answer 3

Honestly, this has a BIG impact on everyone's lives. Women who grow up without a father (me included) tend to get into relationships where they try to -win- their partners love. Kind of trying to make up for feeling in-adequate about not having a father.

A woman always gets into relationships where she tries to control them, when she grows up without a father, I guess to try and control her past (which can never happen)

Women who have had good, caring fathers tend to look for those type of men and usually dont stand for bullsh*t. They are secure in themselves and know that they deserve the best, because a good father bestows that in his children.

Men who grow up without a father tend to follow their footsteps. They are unsure of who they are as men and usually cannot stick to one relationship (they also tend to leave their children)..
Remember, I'm not saying ALL... just many of them!..

Men who grow up with their fathers (good fathers) tend to show compassion and love and generosity to their girlfriends/wives. They are secure in themselves and usually (even if a marriage fails) stand by their children and take care of them always.

There are always exceptions to every rule - and no one thing is the same..

I grew up without a father.. I still struggle with relationships. And I know that is because he was not - and will never be - there.

Answer 4

me and my father don't get alone to well , he is gay and if he is around a guy I like or I'm dating he trys to make passes at them so I avoid the two meeting at all cost!!! as for the men I date ... maybe they are they type of person I wish my father could have been....caring yet strong and very mascline

Answer 5

Most people need their fathers approval, so if he doesn;t approve of the person, without realising it, you start to see their flaws too.

Answer 6

i believe that your father sort of sets the standard for the type of man you gravitate to.......for the most part....