My friend has been dating this girl for a year and a half (I introduced them) and has been sleeping with her all of that time. They are very much in love and have been since they met. The problem is that I knew this girl had HPV before I introduced him to her and I expected her to TELL him before she had sex with him. However, she just broke down and told him the day before yesterday. Should I have told him before they started dating or was it right of me to leave that up to her?
2006-07-13 02:13:20 · 8 answers · asked by Kitten 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all, you shouldn't take any responsibility for your friend's action. i know that's so much easier said than done-- but it's true. it's her relationship. yes you set them up, but whatever happens in that relationship, all the secrets that are kept and all the happy moments that are shared-- is made by them-- and it was HER responsibility to tell him. it was she who has this std and it's she who's sexually active with him.
i think you were completely right for leaving it up too her to tell him, because that's her boyfriend you know? i'm sorry that this happened, to all you of you guys-- i hope everything turns out fine. good luck hun-- and just remember, everything that played out had nothing to do with you and could NEVER be your fault!!
2006-07-13 02:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by jetters007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did right. It is up to her to say something. H.P.V. is very common. So common that most don't even know that they have it until they get a pap smear done.
As far as your friend that would be a hard thing to tell someone. I am not saying not telling someone before sex is right, but it must be a difficult thing to talk about. I am not sure how I would handle it if I were in the same situation. On one hand the other person needs to know. On the other hand I wouldn't want the word to get out.
Don't feel guilty. It really is up to her to tell the person.
2006-07-13 02:28:15 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry 2 have 2 tell u this but yes u should have told him knowing that u were his friend, now they both have it u could have told him and that way he wouldn't of got that from her. Well the girl should of have done her part as well. Don't put all the blame on u i hope every thing works out for u guys!
2006-07-13 02:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by nicole_252006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was up to her to tell him, not you. Although I think I would have had a talk with her beforehand to make sure she was going to tell him. You could have said "I'll give you a week to tell him, then I'll do it". That way you could have protected your friend better. It's a very sad situation all around. It's his life that's messed up now.
2006-07-13 02:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by Astro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have told him before they even dated.. And maybe your friend wouldn't have HPV..
2006-07-13 02:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Chamillitary Amberleé♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what, tell him to go to the doctor and get clean up
2006-07-13 02:17:13 · answer #6 · answered by boy_jam_arch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was right of you to leave it up to her. if she didn't tell him before then it's her fault and she is to blame and deserves what is to come
2006-07-13 02:17:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HPV?
2006-07-13 02:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by cuti g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋