But who really want to, should they just marry anyone, just to get married, so they won't "burn with passion", what if they can't find anyone to marry them, are they doomed to be burning with passion for the rest of their lives?
If they did get married to just anyone, how low do they have to lower their standards and how good would their marriage be if they had to settle for someone they weren't even attracted to just to get married to cure their want for sex?
Is it a really good thing for someone die a virgin at 75 years old? Will there be any extra gifts in heaven for them from Jesus for holding out til death?
2006-07-13 02:01:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I have thought about this long and hard, and I've decided that the "no sex until marriage" rule should be voted on. All in favor of no sex before marriage, say aye. All against, say nay.
Nay!
2006-07-13 02:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by EvilFairies 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being single is a perfectly valid way of living out your Christian life.
Don't marry 'just anyone!'
Your sexuality is a gift from God, don't throw it away.....rather, learn to pray so you can get your sexual appetite under control. If you really have the preoccupation with sex that you are presenting, you are in no position to be seeking your spoouse. You need to control yourself before you can find the right person.
Find a good spiritual director. Even if you are not Catholic, a priest can help you find one.
Once you have gained control of yourself,.get involved with your church, Habitat for Humanity...some volunteer group that interests you.
Guess what? You'll meet members of the opposite gender who have the same interests as you!
And yes, take your sexuality unstained throughout your life and you will be rewarded in Heaven....by the way- by UNSTAINED I mean by either remaining a virgin, or using the gift of your sexuality only with the person you are married to....the way God designed it. Both are valid, both are beautiful.
2006-07-13 02:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy_to_seven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy living the Christian life, is it? Be reminded of 1 Corinthians 10:13: "God is faithful; He will not allow you to be tempted beyond your ability to resist." Trust Him to keep His word -- I'd pray, Lord I need some help with this! I'm burning up over here!
Don't lower your standards, but wait on God. I went through divorce in 2000, became a Christian in 2001, and I still haven't remarried or even found a serious relationship. It's hard sometimes, but God has been using this time to teach me more about His faithfulness and that I don't need a wife to make my life complete. Yeah, and I don't have that gift of celibacy, either.
2006-07-13 02:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by Dave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone has to "settle" for anyone. That is something that I think would be top of their prayer list and God will put them in the situation to meet the person that He has planned for them.
From a biblical perspective, there are no additional rewards for dieing a virgin, etc. Some don't ever marry and Jesus does mention that it is better for man not to be married so that they can service the kingdom of God better, but if they need to, then He does endorse it as what is good.
2006-07-13 02:07:19 · answer #4 · answered by bobm709 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have read and reread your question. I have several friends that live celibate, and are quite happy. They serve God, and work and truly don't complain about sex in their life. They are more happy living with out the sin of unmarried sex in their life and the pain that usually accompanies it. God made us to be with one husband or wife, because it is good for us. Baggage in marriage is one of the main reasons we are all so dysfunctional in society.
I also don't think that you should lower your standards to get married. With prayer, God will give you the partner that is for you. I had so many people tell me that I couldn't have what I desired in a husband, but I told them if God is God, then he will give me what I know He promised, and he did. A husband that treats me like Christ treated the Church.
My husband right now is taking chemotherapy, and we can't make love, should I give up on our marriage. Of course not. Sex is such a small part of what I am, that if I didn't have sex again, I would still be fulfilled. Not looking for a reward in heaven because of a sexless life, but because I am honoring my husband, and living according to the Word.
I suggest that you read, " The Hiding Place" by Corrie Ten Boon, she was a Christian women in the death camps of WW2. She lived her 90+ years, a virgin. quite happy in her extraordinary life.
Be blessed, In Christ.
2006-07-13 02:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by 2ndchhapteracts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, they just haven't yet found the mate God intended for them. I didn't meet my husband until I was 30, no matter how hard God tried to get us together lol. My husband was on the football team of the high school games I used to attend frequently. We knew about 10 of the same people from school, as well as knowing dozens of "hey that's so-and-so's brother who I used to know" type people. We went to the same concerts. We worked within 2 miles of each other for several years.
There was even one point where my husband worked at a gas station that I used to get gas from every day while working nearby, and we never met because I always pumped my own gas lol.
Oh, btw, I live in a city of over 3 million people, if that gives you a clue on what a coincidence it was.
So don't give up hope, your husband can be just around the corner, and your "guardian angel" is rubbing his face in frustration at trying to get you two together. Open your eyes, he's right there! lol I hope you meet him soon :)
2006-07-13 02:11:24 · answer #6 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just have patience. god has someone waiting for you. never get married just so you can have sex. it will leave you feeling empty, because you didn't do it for love, you did it for lust. you don't have to lower your standards at all. keep your standards girl! you will meet a guy and he will seem perfect for you and you will date. then you will realize he has flaws, just like everyone else, and you'll be okay with it.
i'm sure jesus has a little something extra for people who don't have sex ever, but god created sex for us in marriage so if you have sex with your husband there is nothing wrong with it. don't give up hope yet! hold out for the man of your dreams!
2006-07-13 02:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by thunderwear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ma'am never lower your standards just to get married
Of course if your standards are for looks then you
might want to modify it a bit. But when it comes to
character no.
Everyone deserves that burn with passion for
the one they love. I cant imagine never having
that for my husband. It is what keeps you together
and happy.
Maybe you should try multiple routes for dating.
You may need to do the online thing.
And there are several online christian dating
sites. There has to be someone who you
would want. You just need to expand your
areas of search. If confined to one small area
you are left with not much.
Good luck
2006-07-13 02:09:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the basic problem with theism. Is there now a "higher" Heaven than the one everybody else expects to go to for people who saved themselves because they could not find someone to marry? Moreover, how could anyone here (on Earth) know the answer to that question?
2006-07-13 02:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult question but I can point you in the right direction (I think)
God puts the desire to get married in our hearts. He just wants us to wait till he sends the right person.
I think the people that God ordains to not get married are the people that take a vow to marry him. That meaning Catholic priest and Nuns.
There are other people outside of that, that hes doesn't want to marry and that is why we have repentance and he has mercy. Satan is strong,not stronger than God, but stronger than us if we don't turn to God first. He knows we will sin and just wants us to come to him.
But in the Bible it does say it is better to marry than to burn is Hell but that brings up the question of divorce. If I marry a man just to have sex, when can I divorce him and will it be okay?
2006-07-13 02:12:12 · answer #10 · answered by lala<3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get married to a person that you Love - a person that you can't live without. It has nothing to do with the religion, race or skin colour.
You will lower your standards only if you get married to a person whom you are not in love with.
2006-07-13 02:06:28 · answer #11 · answered by R G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋