I have a daycare. Parents need to stop making excuses for their children. It does not help them. If a child does poorly in school the parent needs to listen to the teacher and not demand that their child be passed to the next grade when the child did not earn it. Stupidity and ignorance run hand in hand.
2006-07-13 01:27:11 · 21 answers · asked by michelle r 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
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Parents have a hard time when someone challenges a decision they have made! Teachers know what is best when is comes to a child's education. I've taught preschool for 12 years and every year have to fight to keep a parent from sending their child on. I often have 2 or 3 children each year that are NOT ready to move on to kindergarten yet the parents send them on. The parents cannot accept that their child is not ready. They think because their child knows their letters and numbers that their child is ready. They don't believe me when I tell them that academic success has nothing to do with readiness. What should hold the most weight is social and emotional readiness. I kept in contact over the years with these parents to see how their children were doing. In every case but 1, the child had to repeat kindergarten. I even had one family who sent on their firstborn son when I suggest he stay in preschool another year. He was held back and has a hard time socially (he's in 4th grade now). The same thing happened with their second son. He needed another preschool year and they sent him on! He had to repeat kindergarten! I couldn't believe when they sent the second child on! They did not learn anything from their first experience! Parents! Listen to your child's teacher! Let's keep fighting for these children!
2006-07-13 07:51:27 · answer #1 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
I have been a parent now for almost 15yrs. I have 3 kids who had 3 different experience in school. I also worked in daycare as well.
I am the type of parent that always wanted to know how to improve me kids, but never knew where to start. I had them doing ABC's & 123's early on. But I also have a child who is very smart. you ask him a question he has the correct anwser(most times) But he isn't reading. I informed the teachers early on about this problem, she dismissed it. But then I later found out 'he has a reading disorder' teachers were still passing him on.
So what I am saying: Teachers & parents need to work closer together. Teachers spend more time with the child , then a working parent. If you pass a child that didn't earn to be past....that child & our future suffers. NO ONE ELSE!!!
2006-07-13 18:20:47 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole - 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there is this sense of entitlement that came from somewhere all of a sudden. People believe that their children must get good grades even if they didn't earn them. Then they wonder why their children think they can do whatever they want. My daughter's grades were ailing this past school year. I went to the school and asked what could be done to help her progress to the 7th grade (she's on an IEP). I didn't tell her that they have to pass her. I just simply asked the school's advice on what could be provided both at school and at home to help her get her grades back up to C level. That is the way it should be done.
By demanding the child to be passed no matter what we are raising a generation of helpless twits who think they should own the world!
2006-07-13 08:41:18 · answer #3 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a teacher and I have had parents who set no limits and boundaries for their children and the children do suffer. They are going to go out into the world thinking that everything is everyone else's fault and that the world owes them. The parent is not doing their job sending their child into the world with no skills to cope.
You don't have the power to force people to rear their children in the way you want. What you CAN do is set the expectations and rules for your daycare. Children need to know their are different rules in different places-- such as the school, a friend's home, the job, Grandma's house-- it is a skill to learn to behave appropriate to the situation.
Parents need to take the time to teach their children (discipline, not hit/spank). Going out into the world with skills is hard enough. If you have not been taught then you have a mountain to climb before you can even get started on your journey of adulthood.
2006-07-13 08:43:06 · answer #4 · answered by norsktjej1964 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking as a parent and as a trained teacher - i have seen it from both ways round
as a parent - ones role is rarely well defined so it isn't easy to know, however experienced you may be with other peoples kids, when you have done enough and where to get what kind of help from if and when you need it. also if you do have a child who has a problem at school - being shouted at by a frustrated teacher for incidents that YOU had no way of dealing with or being responsible for every time you pick up your child isn't conducive to building positive relations at the school.
as a teacher - it is generally the case (but not exclusively so) that the parents you would need to work more with on their kids tend to be those who are least interested (lack of attendance at parental consultations, belligerent or obstructive when extra help is offered for the child, or special needs is being diagnosed) whereas the children who are happy and well adjusted at school tend to have parents who work hard with them and are supportive of teachers and the school.
2006-07-13 22:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone wants to think their child is brilliant so if they really aren't then the parent has to make a reason as to why.
as a parent and a future teacher i can tell you that i feel that if a child isn't performing well in school then they need tutoring and if that doesn't work they need to be held back. Parents need to be involved in the teaching process not just leave it all up to the teachers and then blame the schools when the kids doesn't learn anything
2006-07-13 08:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by Brandie C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats why so many idiots are out in the world today. Frankly i dont think schools should budge. If the kid didnt earn it then they need ot be held back. Parents making excuses for their children isnt doing anythign but encouraging this horrible behavior in their children and even making them think its okay. Not to mention when their kids have kids, its going to be twice as bad
2006-07-13 08:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by sera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you there. In most instances the parents know best, but when it comes to your child's education the teacher is the one that spends the most time with your child. If there was more respect for teachers there might not be such a turnover.
2006-07-14 03:39:53 · answer #8 · answered by Someonesmommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry don't have an answer but it's not just there I see it every day. Parents seem to think they are right just because they are parents. As you say "Stupidity and ignorance run hand in hand."
2006-07-13 08:35:59 · answer #9 · answered by Crazy Diamond 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, parents are lazy. Children do not know how to push themselves to strive for greatness because they simply have not been taught yet. It is the parents responsibility to teach children to be the best they can be.
Simply put parents need to get off their butts and teach their children better than they were taught by their lazy parents.
2006-07-13 19:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by moniqu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋