It seems impossible to approach females in clubs, bars etc. because they hang around in closed groups reject the attention they're trying to get; yet try to talk to one outside of that environment, however, and they usually treat me as if I were a rapist.
Maybe there are hidden factors involved, but I would like to know: how does one approach female strangers in any environment? What sorts of things does one have to consider? Do they have to look a certain way, or dress a certain way?
NOTE: I'm not looking for "just go up to her" answers, because you know full well that's futile.
2006-07-13 00:58:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Your body language does it all. Smile while you look AT her eyes, don't look INTO them, and don't forget to blink never stare. The smile will disarm the alarm system. The rest is a simple 'Hello, I am __________. I find standing off to the side until I can get some eye contact, casually, not ever staring, just a glance. If you get return eye contact, that is when you smile and give a little wave or raise your glass and indicate that you are aware of her return gaze. If she smiles even a little bit, you have made the first good move. The next thing you need to do is cut her from the herd by moving in her direction. If she turns away, don't press on, move on. There will be another fish in the stream, there always is. The best fishermen catch fish by casting many times, and not worrying about the one that broke the line or tossed the bait. That is why they have an entire tackle box of new line and baits.
2006-07-13 01:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by thebushman 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a good idea to be well groomed, and dressed appropriately to begin with - don't overdo it though - too much primping makes you look silly.
Don't just approach a woman cold - unless you're just saying "hi", and then continue to walk by. A woman will let you know when she is ready to be approached. Usually a smile, or a slight head nod is a woman's way to say "you may introduce yourself now." But don't just walk up to female strangers and start introducing yourself - it's rude, and pushy.
2006-07-13 08:37:53 · answer #2 · answered by candrv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 50 years old approaching a girl that is 22, they tend to get nervous over the whole age thing. Most likely you will be seen as a perv unless you happen to stumble upon another Anna Nicole Smith.
2006-07-13 08:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD KNOW FIRST if the girl is interested or not. If she is then your first move would be to approach her AND her group and be connected with the group. If the other girls notice your intentions, then they will make a polite exit, leaving you and the girl whom you are interested with alone.
2006-07-13 08:02:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Water baloon the rest of the group.
2006-07-13 08:01:18 · answer #5 · answered by B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The age old buy her a drink trick.
2006-07-13 12:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With your pants UP! I find that this is the mistake most often made in this situation.
2006-07-13 08:01:39 · answer #7 · answered by lampoilman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋