My past is my past, he got upset that I didn't share something (an arrest) with him. I am ashamed of it so I wasn't ready. I told him in time when i'm comfortable i'll share (more) things. He didn't want to wait, he siad now or never basically. I felt pressur'd so I told him. He stop'd see'n me after 2.5 weeks. He said that i agreed to tell him from the beginning so being that i kept it from him i didn't follow through what we'd agreed on. He insist that he's not hold'n/judging me. He too had been arrested in the past so he couldn't judge me. But he still stop'd see'n me. I do know that he liked me and was eager to hear from me, he called me every chance he got. We talked all day every daybefore then. He called me after he'd have a meeting and before. He would leave meetings to talk to me so I KNOW HE LIKED ME AND ENJOYED MY COMPANY. I askd why was my past so important, if there was something that could affect him or his job I could understand, it's none of that. ? do u think?
2006-07-13 00:51:14 · 9 answers · asked by ziyyarichmond43 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweety the only time you HAVE to tell anyone about your past is when you are dealing with law enforcement and filling out job applications that require you to do so. In either case you will be investigated so might as well be upfront right now.
Otherwise it just should not come up in conversation, (well, except maybe between homeless people, discussing the warmth of the cell and the marvelous variety of jail food).
Hindsight is 20/20. If it ever comes up again that soon in a relationship, just tell them you are getting over some things that happened and you feel uncomfortable talking about it. If they want to tell you about their picadillos, fine. Don't feel pressured to tell them right now, this instance. Close that door and don't open it again until you have to. Then deal with it when the time comes. But 2 and a half weeks is WAY too soon.
Let him go. If he is willing to drop you that unceremoniously, he is NOT the one for you. He would make you miserable any time he wanted to. You don't need to let anyone do that to you. Take a deep breath and let him go.
2006-07-26 10:33:47 · answer #1 · answered by Ding-Ding 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't have pressured you to talk about something with him when you were not yet ready to. That being a deal breaker for him was pretty shallow of him. Hell, I've been arrested several times...but I wouldn't just bring it up with someone I had been seeing for two and a half weeks, unless they brought it up as a question. Then I would just tell the truth about it, or if I was for whatever reason uncomfortable about answering at that moment, tell them you would rather discuss that with them later, that adds a little mystery and anticipation as well, which can be good.
2006-07-13 01:01:43 · answer #2 · answered by a_digital_g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the way pimps start out w/u also....Not to say that he is.
If he left you after 2.5 weeks what were his intentions...
Sounds as though this may be infatuation? Do not reveal your past until you are comfortable with that individual...no telling what harm can be done with such tidbit info.
2006-07-13 00:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by scooter47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth, and only truth is the best way to make a good new relationship. Tell him about your past, don't deep in details, if he is really loves you, he will understand, no one without past even him
2006-07-13 00:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by a_ebnlhaitham 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the past is part of you, but you don't have to share it with someone when you don't feel comfortable in doing so. sometimes you did things you don't want to share, and don't want to, but feel guilty that if you don't he will find out from someone else. nothing goes unnoticed, everything gets out when the time is right. tell him that you will tell him when is necessary to do so, if he does't respect that, he is not worth sharing your past with.
2006-07-13 01:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just want to know you, and your past is apart of you. If you don't know where you come from, how can you have a future?
2006-07-13 00:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by hateizmybestfriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
past is alwasys key to future be transperent with ur B/F if uare clear he willalso be clear
2006-07-13 01:01:04 · answer #7 · answered by amar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but it seems to me he's not respecting you enough..
2006-07-13 00:57:26 · answer #8 · answered by ^.^ dAnieLLa ^.^ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a complete jerk.
2006-07-13 01:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. BIG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋