I met a guy through Yahoo Messenger. We began talking and realized that we have everything in common. Even weird stuff like he like to put habaneros on his pizza (honestly how many people like that, but I do too). We both believe that we are soul mates. However, we live across the country from each other. He is wanting to take a plane and come visit me for a few days (no sex or anything like that). I am full grown 26 and he is 32. I feel that we are perfect for each other. Is it normal for guy to come and meet you like that? Fly across country just to see you face to face?
2006-07-13 00:39:37 · 17 answers · asked by davidswiphey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you do meet this guy, just be careful. Sometimes all is not as it seems. Trust me, I know from experience.
2006-07-13 00:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Getting comfortable in a relationship is something best accomplished slowly, off-line, and in person. So yes, if you two have met on-line the ONLY way this connection can potentially become a relationship is for you two to spend actual person-to-person, in real time, contact time with one another.
You're both adults. You live across the country from each other. That's w/hat planes are for. The only thing you need to do is be VERY CLEAR about the ground rules. Make sure you have exchanged pictures and that you have talked about sleeping arrangements - you should make sure that he is perfectly clear on the fact that this is not a long-distance booty call. (Find a good hotel for him - or a friend of yours - male - with whom he could stay. Jut not in your house.) And, if the visit works well, then you need to plan on making a visit to where he lives. (I'd forgo any sex until AT LEAST the third long-distance visit, were I you.)
If you are "soulmates" (
2006-07-13 07:46:44 · answer #2 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you rather he do just talk in the Internet for the next 5 years. He's obviously interested in forming more than an on-line relationship which requires meeting face to face. meet him for the first time in a public place to make sure he's not some weirdo. You might be meeting the perfect guy for you. Yes its perfectly normal to fly across the country to meet someone that you think is your soul-mate. Have fun!
2006-07-13 07:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by golden oldy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have same problem. I have met someone on the net....we seem perfect for one another, we spent too many hours on line to talk to each other, we talk two times per day, almost every day AND i want to meet him like crazy....He doesnt.....which is totally unbelievable....We are communicating for almost two yrs now.....
I think you are lucky you got him come to you...Hey, I am still trying.....On the other hand, please be very carefull upon meeting him.....On line we kind of let ourselves more free than real life and please do not let your guards down just because you think he is perfect....Get the chance to know him and after spending some time with him (AVOID SEX, might lead you to false thoughts) then think once more about how you feel for him....
All the best to you.....At least you will meet him.....
2006-07-13 07:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by thnos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal for a guy that thinks he may have found the one, or is desperate and thinks he might get some. You all could get web cams and start communicating that way, if you feel uncomfortable with meeting him this soon.
2006-07-13 07:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by a_digital_g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy doesn't want sex? Are you SURE about this? Have you talked it over with him? And what's supposed to happen after you meet? Something just doesn't SEEM right here. Well, good luck to you both.
2006-07-13 07:45:30 · answer #6 · answered by Evil Wordmonger, LTD LOL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh palllllleeeezzzzzeeee.....You're 26 if you think this dude isn't going to come see your for SEX you're badly living in la-la twightlight zone foggy land.
Geez ...I like habenero's on my pizza and you don't see me booking a ticket to see you.
Online fantasy is just that....Don't make it a reality ....because this faceless person could be a predator out to make you the serial kill of the day!
2006-07-13 07:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, these things you have in common, are they things you mention first? or.. does he say something THAN you realize that you do have that in common.
there are so many crazy people out there, it would be a shame to invite a total stranger to come to your home and it does not turn out how you thought. what i mean is just be careful. do a little investigation on his background. check the internet for offenders and predetors. be sure of what you are doing before you bring him to your comfort zone...
good luck.
2006-07-13 07:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its cool yaar
its perfectly normal.if u people like each other than whts the problem......u have found a perfect guy...who can come so far to just to meet u.that means he loves u so much......i think u people meet each other.know each other better.and if everythign falls in place .just get marreind
my best wishes r with u
best of luck
2006-07-13 07:44:42 · answer #9 · answered by angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of times online relationships don't work out but some do and you have to be very careful with meeting the person you never know if they are who they say they are
2006-07-13 07:45:53 · answer #10 · answered by babygirllizzie911 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many ppl do tht if u believe ur soul mates may be its a good omen try n hang out see how u go along then tell ur parents who knows there are already wedding bells ringing
2006-07-13 07:54:20 · answer #11 · answered by smart_lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋