2006-07-12 23:58:47 · 21 answers · asked by Me .... Nandi :D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I wouldn't put it as "make her mine" but what you need to do is make her feel comfortable around you and it might take some time to get her to open up.
Hope this helps~
2006-07-13 00:01:17 · answer #1 · answered by Bon Bon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is shy and has never had a boyfriend, this is NEW territory and you need to start slow, stay slow, and finish well. Making sure you go out of your way to talk to her at school, saying "hi" and smiling can go a long, long way to making her feel safe and comfortable around you. In my day, you wrote notes to each other. Now it seems you text each other. If you can do that, then you should - little non-aggressive notes. Don't scare her off. Just be friendly for awhile.
When she returns the favor and sends you a text back, then you have begun a dialog, and you can then become friendlier. Try to sit with her at lunch or ....oops, it's summer, so I guess that's out. Well, send her a funny card - I know it is old-fashioned, but there is a reason the greeting card industry survives. Not only is it fun to get a card, but it means the sender has taken the time to pick it out, sign it, address it, put a stamp on it and mail it. VERY personal.
Call her now and then just to talk.
And then ask her to go with a group of you to someplace that is open and safe. Going with a group will make her feel comfortable and she won't have to worry that she won't have anything to say and that you will think she is stupid. (Yes, that is what she will think when she is shy and tongue-tied around you.) After awhile, all this will put her at ease and - if she likes you too - then you can ask her out, just the two of you.
When you get there - don't try to kiss her the first date. Just make it easy. Sure, hold her hand - maybe put your arm around her at the movies ..... but keep it low key and relaxed.
Bottom line is that while this is going to seem SO SLOW and ridiculous, you will learn some valuable lessons, if you want to. One, a good relationship is better than a fast one (and I do mean "fast" in all negative apects); respect for people breeds respect in return; having manners and consideration for others will take you extremely far in life; and you will be happier in the long run.
So will she.
2006-07-13 00:14:01 · answer #2 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself, their is nothing more frightening for a shy person, than someone who seems to try to hard. Trying being a friend, because with a lot of shy people,[me included], relationships and dating build from knowing the person and getting to like the person, having some shared interests, and ideas.
But most of all take it slow, she may only like you as a friend.
2006-07-13 00:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by markaod 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tease her , bust her balls so to speak , be cocky and funny to create attraction . Not to cocky and arrogant .Take arrogant stufff and add humor its a killer to create attraction .
1 . dont tell her you like her .2 Tell her you want to be freinds first because you want to get to know her , make a joke out of that ie say " i want to be just freinds first so if your a complete nutcase then ill know to run " ( in a joking way ) . Just act confident and be that it will make her more comfortable and also if u act shy then she will be worse .
2006-07-13 00:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by badass-mofu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could try to talk to her...ask her out for a walk in park or smth like that(not like a real date, just to have fun and gain her confidence- this is very important especially if she is shy). Talk to her to know her and discover her, and let yourself be discovered... But I tell you, if you gain her trust, you can easily make her fall in love with you! Just don't be pushy! Take it really slow for her to get used to you and to like you. Try to find out what kind of boyfriend she would prefer and try to act according to that...
2006-07-13 00:06:43 · answer #5 · answered by Tudor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww..that's so sweet. Why don't you try asking her out. Does she like you? You have to make the first move because if she's shy, she wont'. Just say hi and remember to be yourself
2006-07-13 00:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very shy at first around men and so the best thing for you to do is just gradully get chatting to her and getting to know her. And when she feels comfortable she'll let u know. And just don't push it or come over to cocky. Good luck!
2006-07-13 00:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jodie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be close to her... remember she's quite shy to do the first move... be friendly with her... make her happy always... i know someday she will not be shy anymore to show to you her true personality... its a sign that she is comfortable hanging with your company... and maybe she'll like you too... then, you'll get the chance to show your hidden feelings for her... just don't be impatient... wait for her to get you know better...
2006-07-13 00:25:28 · answer #8 · answered by bLueCieS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope you mean take her out on a date! "making her yours" is not nice. people aren't owned.
talking to her and showing her she can trust you is the only way. once she has your trust she may go out with you.
don't be disappointed if it doesn't happen. just because you like her it doesn't mean she will like you.
don't take it personally if she doesn't. I'm sure there are lots of girls you can charm. are you sure your not attracted to the challenge more than the girl herself?
2006-07-13 00:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by tuppassister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant make her yours,as you put it.....if your friends then maybe you can suggest getting a coffee together or going to the pictures....if she hesitates say you just want some company rather than go on your own.....or else she might be glad of you making the first move and just say yes straight away.......
good luck
2006-07-13 00:09:06 · answer #10 · answered by julie w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋