is this love or is it fake?

Question

10 minutes ago
how about this, everytime i tried to do something he always had an major attitude, all he ever wanted to do was to sit home , sleep with his damn cat, and i got sick of it, i come back from my vacation and i was so excited to see him and we planned to go to the beach and when i told him that we are still going he was like "whatever with an attitude"
All i would want is him to change a bit, i want to be there for him, because everyone seems to leave him and i want him to know what to say or not to say, i dont want him to go away completely, but change a bit. Another thing I dont drive and when he would pick me up, I always paid gas, like 40$ each week, and then he tells me i use him, after all at the beganning i told him that i was scared of driving because of an accident and he said it was Ok not to worry about it in the beganning and now I USE HIM!! Please help!

2 minutes ago
and when i would come to the intimate part, when i didnt want to he pressured me and if i wanted to he would say im tired or not now and he would never kiss me , he would always spend wonderful times with his too single friends and would have a blast with them and me i was like nothing thats what it felt-- and when i was so sick one day , he was out partying and when i called him he never picked up and the next day he gave me an attitude that i was bothering and told me to "be patient" and he always says "be patient and kind" but how am i suppose to be patient if hes having more fun with his single male friends and not caring about me----

Answer 1

Its fake. Sorry that you have to hear that from a stranger. You should get out of it while you can and find someone who will LOVE and respect you. Good luck.

Answer 2

Hi. Its your life and you need to take a decision on this. The information that you have provided from that it seems that, the guy has some serious attitude / ego problems. Such people do not change over the time. They just use u as a piece of furniture and would like you to behave like the way they want. They freak around and have fun as and when they like but when its ur turn or u are out with ur friends they get irritated and try to be over possesive. Its ur foolishness to think that he will change. If u can adjust to his way of living then go along else give a serious thought to ur relationship. Life is one live to the max.

Answer 3

You already know the answer to your own question. No, this is not love. If it was love he would be nice to you, you are smart enough to know that. Also, as others have said, you cannot change him. Forget it. If you are emotionally/physically wrapped up in the guy, the effort is going to be on your shoulders to get over it and move on. Don't feel alone, everyone has liked someone that treats them bad and it drives us crazy because we don't know why we do it. Don't let your heart rule your head with this guy. It's better to be alone than with someone who makes you feel bad about yourself - true story.

Answer 4

Sweetheart if this was written by someone else and you read it, what answer would you give? Exactly!!! Leave him hunny....the fact that everyone else has left him is not your problem to remedy. People will treat you how you let them treat you. You are letting him treat you like crap - why should he change? Your last line says "not caring about me". Read it and learn it because the longer you stay with this twit, the more you are going to have to repeat it to yourself to be able escape with your heart intact. Do you seriously want a guy like this? (PLEASE don't say yes to that!!!)

Answer 5

Honey its time to wake up and move on, If he cared for you he would act like it...I can see why everyone seems to leave him. Do yourself the biggest favor you can and get out and find a man who will love and cherish you. He will never keep someone unless he changes his ways and to me he seems really selfesh. Dont waste another minute on him.

Answer 6

That is where the car crash is at. In your statement. You said you want him to change a bit. Okay for one if you get in a relationship and want to change him it isn't going to work. Guys keep a simple path. We follow the way we are taught as children, and if that isnt put in us at a early age then it isn't happening later. Guy do like changes, they like to follow the way that they have done for years. That is guys don't move sofas or chairs. and etc in our house. Because when we walk in our house we know where to walk without turning a light on, That is why guys get mad if the road changes and they get upset. That is why guys have a messy desk, to us it isn't messy we know where things are. Like when my girlfriend cleaned my desk where my computer is at. I got ticked because I know where everything is at, but after she changed things i couldn't find thing in two weeks. That is why guys could have a messy tool bench and if something is missing for that mess, we know someone moved something.
Plus we don't like females that are bossy, We don't live with our mother for a reason. And your lucky to got away with a major attitude. When you tried to be boss, lol lucky girl.
and every guy that get told what to do, will say whatever. What did you want him to do jump up and down since he is going to the beach. boring.
And the statement, I want to be there for him, There again your trying to be his mother. you didn't say you wanted to be with him because you love him but you said you want to be there for him, like he cant' live without you.
or leave him and want hime to know what to say and not say, That is all controll stuff that a mother would do,

This is why guys don't like females that are bossy and controlling.

Answer 7

he is trying to break up with you, and is too patient and kind to put in words, so he is acting indifferent , so you go away yourself. According to me he is having another girl, or if as you sayis out partying with his male friends, then he is gay and can't spell it out . himself. that is with the attitude too.he is found himself in a world completely different, and mean, wants to be accepted the way he is and also is KIND so he can't hurt you. So he is asking of you to be patient and kind. these are they keywords.So i guess you need to be understanding , remain a friend and help him in these trying times when everyone else is shunning him . and by friend i dont mean girl friend.....definately you need to find yourself a MAN WHO appriciates you and loves you. this guy on the otherhand needs your HELP! not LOVE!

Answer 8

I have carefully read the whole picture of your love affair. I reached at the conculsion that he is not interested in you. He is more interested in his friends than you. It is very strange that being male he is not inclined to have sex with you and when you invited him to come close to you, he said that he was "tired and not now". This gives an impression that he is not good friends. If he had love with you and sexual desire he would have taken initiative and done intercourse with you. I am therefore of the opinion that he is not in love with you and he is simply having his time passed . In my opinion he is not a good partner as he is not responding your to your gesture and your invititation to do sex.

Answer 9

WoW - Time for you to go shopping for a new guy. This is a dead end. Your in for a continued life of frustration and unhappy days if you don't break out and move on. Good luck.

Answer 10

Only care for those who care for you. Bcoz who care for you never make you feel sad or keep you waiting. All that matters at the end of the day is your own happiness.