2006-07-12 22:54:18 · 17 answers · asked by lostonlonelyroad 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It depends on the situation.
I think you should make your choice based on what will be best for your friend, not what you want.
If your friend is in a bad relationship but she's only getting married because she has no other options, telling her that you love her might help her to make a better decision for her life.
However, if she's getting married and there's every indication that she's truly in love with the guy and they'll have a happy life together, you should support her and not try to make her choose.
In other words, be completely unselfish at a time like this. If you truly care about your friend, you'll want her to be happy.
2006-07-13 05:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by drshorty 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her. Maybe she love you too but thought you don't love her?
I have the same experience before. But I told her after she get married. She is surprised. And nevertheless that, our friend-relationship getting even better.
If she love her future husband greater than you, she won't make change to her decision, so dont worry about the damage you made.
Well, if she change her mind, then she better do it before marriage. You save her, to stop her marry with someone she love the second most.
2006-07-12 23:04:06 · answer #2 · answered by wyeechen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you seem to be still in condition of "I think". Better leave it mate. At least she is now your best friend. Once you tell this thing, chances are you might loose this friendship as well. When I saw your question, first thing that came to my mind: What could be your motivation or rationale behind telling her now and I could not think of one that is justified enought to break her marriage that is yet to happen. You will do a great favor to her and to yourself by letting this love feeling remain in your heart. God is very nice, in no time, you will find another love.
2006-07-12 23:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by RKM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone made a good question about how you "think" you are in lover with her vs you "know" you are love with her. You sound wishy washy about it. She is here making a commitment for life and you stilll don't know where you stand? You had your time and didn't want to commit. Now someone that wants to commit to her is really doing it. So now you are being selfish and don't want to lose what you thought you could get for nothing with out ever committing too. But someone else saw value in your friend. Learn your lesson and move on. Someone that you will want to commit to will come along. And this time don't make her your best friend - make her your bride.
2006-07-13 00:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you are prepared to take the groom's place at the altar.
Then, you should tell her and propose to her. Could this be a selfish, last-minute realization that you can no longer have her friendship without a personal committment? Or do you really want her to be a part of the rest of your life? If the answer to the last question is No, then keep it to yourself and accept her newly-found happiness.
2006-07-12 23:03:08 · answer #5 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should. and try to have sex with her the night before her marriage. I did this once with a previous gal friend who was preagnant and getting married...and boy..she really made a great job of the issue.
Gals are not better then us guys..it just matters to hit upon the right ones and my you'll really have a great time!
2006-07-12 23:41:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brother..
Show her you are sad for this marriage.. Let her "feel" you wanted her badly, don't make any direct speech.. for according to human psychology, females shall consider this as an offensive action..
Try to make her feel, and if she asked be direct and tell her...
Females have strong sensation for love.. If she felt it.. she'll talk, as females "like to talk to express themselves", if she did, tell her the truth..
If she didn't feel it, and didn't come back to you, then how would you live with a woman that can't feel you? can't understand you? I'm sorry to say that, if she didn't feel your feelings and gestures, then she don't deserve you.. and I'm sure that God will lead you to another perfect relation in the near future...
2006-07-12 23:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by Lawrence of Arabia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omigod does it really happen to real life?? does ur friend love the guy shes marrying? if yes, and if u want to stay the way things are, spare her the truth and live with it. sometimes love means sacrifice.
2006-07-12 22:58:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEST FRIENDS ARE WILLING TO SACRIFICE FOR their friends. So, I advice you not to reveal your feelings to her. At this moment she is busy with her upcoming marriage. SUPPORT HER. Do your best to divert that romantic feelings towards other girls. You will get over it in due time and you will never regret what you've done because you did not allow yourself to destroy two people's marriage.
2006-07-12 23:08:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you had your chance and now she is moving on, don`t make things weird by doing something like that.
2006-07-12 22:58:42 · answer #10 · answered by ozzyfanjordan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋