ok ...... my bf and i have been together for 2yrs. In that time my fokes have only caught up with his fokes like 2 maybe 3times. My mum gets along with his mum but she dislikes his dad because he insulted her by talking about her boobs and his generally a sick person but i find it funny as he means nothing by7 it but my mum has taken a dislike to him straight way. Yet my dad likes them all and so does everyone else but my mum. His dad treats my bf badly as he is always pointing oout the bad instead of the good and his even told me his jealous his son earns more!
My mum has heard this from my bf who talks to her about him. I wondering is it because of us that she dislikes him? Is there away i can get her to atleast get to know him? What do i do?? We plan to get married and i just want everyone to get along??
2006-07-12 22:18:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
For a marriage to be successful, one does nt pay heed to what others say. U like ur partner, Ur partner loves U. there end the matter. Y think what ur mother thinks of his father or mother. Or what his father thinks of ur Moms boobs. As long as U both get along well just go ahead. Thinks willbe alright after u get married.
2006-07-12 22:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by naraksab 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, you are going to need to come to grips with the fact that families are not perfect. We cannot always fashion the dynamics to suit everyone. Hard as we may try, it rarely happens. If you talk to your mother, let her vent a little, and then tell her how important it is to you for people to get along, that should help.
My second bit of advice would be that you and your future husband will learn that as a team, the both of you will have to show wisdom in deciding what you share with other family members. Sometimes we share things with people, and the information we share with them causes them difficulty. For example, your mother probably doesn't need to hear anything else bad about your future father in law. It will only make it that much more difficult for her to get along with him.
I hope some of this helps.
2006-07-13 05:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by 7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone doesnt like someone else in your family and his then thats absolutely normal.. not all people can get alone with everyone.. However try to bring them close.. arrange to go out for dinner all of you and see how its going.. im sure there wont be any problem for you when get married.. i dont think she dislikes him because of you and im sure when u decide to marry your man nobody will say anything.. you are in love and nobody can change that..
2006-07-13 05:29:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is probably the reason she doesn't like the father. When my son was telling me about his gf's mother I didn't like her. I still don't, and they're not even together anymore. You can't control who your mother likes. If a person doesn't like another person or the way they act, you can't change it. I use to like my neighbor Dan until I saw him kick the sh** out of his dog. Now I have no time for him. I've known him for 4 yrs. but in one brief instant that all changed. Just tell your mother that you know she doesn't like him but try to be civil at the wedding. By hearing that he treats his son badly I don't like him. It sounds like they don't see eachother a whole lot so keep your load light and try not to worry too much about it.
2006-07-14 02:53:45 · answer #4 · answered by windandwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents have NEVER got along with any of our in-laws, all 5 sets! That's life. Perhaps a little lecture before the wedding, "look I know you don't get on but for my sake, on this day, can you just say Hello and be nice?"
2006-07-13 05:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by XT rider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your bf father needs to apoogise for the boobs comment....Don't blame her for being upset she is a lady and a man shouldn't speak to a lady like that
and for your bf dad to be jealous of what he earns.,... that is sad
2006-07-13 06:01:40 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriends father insulted your mother. She may not ever change her mind about his father. The important thing to remember is that you will be gaining his side of the family and he will be gaining your side of the family. Your family and his family don't necessarily have to gain each other.
2006-07-13 05:25:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey babe you like this dude and that's enough keep your family out of it the two families doesn't have to like each other they both like you and you bf and that's a good thing I guess
2006-07-13 05:23:04 · answer #8 · answered by anguir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
concentrate on you and your bf- chances are they wont get along, until they have had enough exposure to each other to know or at least get used to each other. You arent marrying his parents, and he isnt marrying yours- if they love you- they will behave like adults!
2006-07-13 05:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by ProZack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're future father in-law must be alot like me (a good hearted perv)LOL.Don't worry hun,things will smooth out.It just takes time.
2006-07-14 00:43:54 · answer #10 · answered by Troy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋