I have this bf and we have been going out for awhile and he's perfect! He always compliments me opens doors for me never lets me pick up the tab and he always lets me know how hes feeling (not to mention I love his family). When we are with eachother he makes me feel like a princess what more could you ask for right? Well deep down it's like something is missing and it's like he is sooo good he makes want to puke! But the thing is I no if i'm foolish and dump him i'll never get a guy as good as him but i no if i stay with him i'll never no what i'm missing and lets face it perfection is boring. So do I lose him and be a b*tch and be young and keep dating or do I stop and see that I just found Mr. Right?
2006-07-12 20:36:25 · 15 answers · asked by That's Life. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a clear case of you thinking the grass is greener on the other side...that you are missing out on something...you have everything but you want something else. The fact of the matter is that you will not be happy till you leave and see what you are missing, unfortunately, so I advise you to go and do it. Leave him and see what it will be like, you will probably run wild and be able to do things you only dreamed of.
Your parents will be unhappy, but who cares, they are just parents and don't know anything anyway.
And then one day when you are sitting somewhere, in a park or mall alone, a single girl, who has gone through innumerable relationships trying to find one like the one she left, who has probably had a couple of abusive boyfriends who beat her.....you will see him with his new wife and child, being insanely happy together, and you will realize that could have been you.
But it wont matter, because you have been out seen the world, experienced life, even if you did end up alone in an abusive relationship. that's what you will have to tell yourself.
2006-07-12 20:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by Pete 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
where do i begin? let me see. first of all, not knowing how old you are but assuming you are very you ,,, you are very confused right now. in my opinion, i would ask for some 'me' time. you need to experience other relationships before you will ever know if you have found 'mr. right' at such a young age. he does sound like a wonderful guy. but if you stay with him because he is so polite and does everything right ,,,, you will only resent him more than you do already. you said he makes you feel like a princess but also said he makes you want to puke. which only shows your confusion. talk to him. be honest and tell him that you need to experience life before committing to only him. you may just find that he was what you wanted but ,,,, you never know ,,, it may not be meant to be. one thing you will discover as you get older is that life is too short to not try and be happy. and it sounds like you are not happy with this guy. i am older and believe me ,,, he sounds like a catch. i have had my share of cheaters, losers, liars and anything else you want to toss in. including abusers. being hit on and beat by a man isn't anything close to being made to feel like a princess. but we all have to live and learn sweetie. if you are not happy ,,, tell him so. and good luck to you!! oh, and btw ,,, nobody is perfect!!
2006-07-12 20:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by robin j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does sound great, but your intuition is telling you that everyone has flaws, and a dark side. Maybe, that is what you are hesitant about. When someone hides apart of themselves from you, it is hard to be sure you feel the way that you do about the person, and without knowing the person well enough you have a fear of commitment.
I wish more woman thought like that, they just might avoid some very bad relationships.
You should let things go along as they are, and be patient. Soon enough you will see more if not all of who he is as a person, and you may find that his dark side is only shady, not pitch black, then you will be a very lucky woman.
Keep using that brain of yours, it is working very well.
2006-07-12 20:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy with what you got for you will regret with what you had if you let the person go. He needs to stop being perfect and life is not all merry so I would be a little suspicious of his actions and get to know the person a little more before going further. I think you need a little badness into your life or his but whatever floats your boat. Good Luck!
2006-07-12 20:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by Lae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U wont feel it until someone has him on lock down. Take your time u will learn to love him u are not use to the way he is treating u. Remember u deserve it wake up. Dont stop being treated good to being abused. Kind words open doors paying the bill lol Enjoy the royalty ms thing.
2006-07-12 20:44:23 · answer #5 · answered by Big R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that something is missing already means that he's not perfect, your guy surely have flaws too.. Don't ever think of leaving someone just because he seemed too perfect for you or something is missing because you can't be assured that you'll find that "missing thing" with someone else..
2006-07-12 20:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by Creine_Athena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know if he is "the one" for you. No one here can help you decide that. Just know that holding on to him because you are afraid there isn't anything "better" isn't fair to him. Walking away because you are scared is a horrible thing to regret. Try talking to him. If he's really that wonderful, let him know your fears. He may be able to put them to ease.
2006-07-12 20:43:25 · answer #7 · answered by adagia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are enough losers in this world but sounds like you got a really nice guy..Don't be afraid and think that there is something wrong. Why go looking for trouble............He sounds like the perfect one so go with it
2006-07-12 20:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a good long talk with him about it and uncover what it is that you're so afraid of.
Perhaps you're really afraid that he'll leave you and so you're thinking if you leave him first then he can't hurt you later on.
Perhaps it's more complex than that, perhaps it's simpler. Only talking it over openly and honestly will help you to resolve it.
2006-07-12 21:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by Tomis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends if you are 17 young or 30 young. Date anyone long enough and you'll find something you don't like, so don't worry about that.
2006-07-12 20:43:42 · answer #10 · answered by GreenManorite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋