well the situation is that my ex that dumped me twice is comming back again, and i have a boyfreind, but we're fighing alot right now, i really dont know what to do...since me and my present bf have been fighting so much, iv been talking to my freind, and it turns out he likes me, and comes to find out i like him, but my present bf is suicidal and if i break up with him he'll kill himself..litterally, idk wtf to do? can you help?
2006-07-12 20:35:43 · 17 answers · asked by light_my.candle_x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well as for the ex- tell him to buzz off. The current bfriend- explain to him how you feel, if you dont want to be with him either, you cant stay with him just because it makes him happy- he wont be happy anyways knowing (and he will know) that you are unhappy to be with him- he wont trust you and it will be hell for you both. If you think he is suicidal (for real) get him some help, whether he likes it or not. If he is just manipulating you by telling you he wants to kill himself, it will serve him right to endure the embarrassment of someone coming in to call him on it. If he really IS suicidal, he needs the help anyways.
Chances are, the guy will be stalking you anyways if you leave him, and the cops can get him the help he needs!
If you like the new friend and he likes you back- go for it, I guess- but I am kinda wondering if you are too young to know what you want, and if so- dont get committed to anyone, just date! Regardless, you shouldnt get tied down to anyone until you are absolutely sure, and I think a year is a good amount of time to get to know someone enough to move beyond dating. Keep it in your pants sweety, you will gain a much better perspective on life, love, and relationships. It will also help you see what kind of men you are hooking up with. Hold higher standards for yourself, and you will get better men!
2006-07-12 20:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all find out which one you love. The ex boyfriend already dumbed you twice.. why not do it again? and why is he coming back ? fighting with your bf now is not something terrible it happens even to the most happy couples.. the problem is , which one do you want to be with ? if you decide to be with your ex and you r scared of causing the other guy's suicide then the best you can do is go talk to him and explain that you are not meant to be together and that he is good enough to find someone else.. be honest with him and dont lie to him because you r gonna make it worse.. the first thing you should now though is clear your head and feelings.. ask yourself who is the guy you want to be with..
2006-07-12 20:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not get back with your EX that dumped you twice, have enough self-respect to not deal with him ever again.
Your present boyfriend is using his suicidal thoughts to keep you in his life, but in an unhappy relationship for you, if you dump him and he kills himself it will not be your fault, he would have done that with anybody or anyways (will not be your fault)
Try to have a relationship with your friend, he seems like the only sane and reliable man in your life.
Or you might want to consider, having some time alone, you got to much "drama" in your life right now. Good Luck.
2006-07-12 20:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by two_skrus_luse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say ditch both of them neither of them are good for you ones an *** and the other needs help if he is suicidal you breaking up with him I highly doubt he is going to I've had many bfs like that good luck hun hope everything works out
2006-07-12 20:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by lover_gurl_42019 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, u need to live ur life. if the current bf is suicidal, then u can seek help for him or warn his parents. u can't stay in a relationship where u r miserable. it's just as bad as being in a domestic violence relationship because he's essentially controlling ur actions.
2006-07-12 20:38:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact a suicide hotline. They're not only for the suicidal, but for those close to the suicidal as well. They have much more experience then anyone you may find here.
2006-07-12 20:39:43 · answer #6 · answered by keep_up_w_this 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough decision, dont go back to your ex tho. that will just end with tears for the third time. but your current bf may need serious counseling cus you shouldnt just be with him just so he doesnt kill himself. maybe you guys should work out the fighting
2006-07-12 20:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you want a man who has dumped you twice??????????????
Secondly, you are playing,or being played Florence Nightingale to a neurotic.
Run, do not walk away from BOTH of them and spend some serious down time asking yourself why you are attracted to despair and unhappiness.
2006-07-12 20:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by chrisbrown_222 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best solution for you to be single for a while. Being with guys like that actually letting those guys to use you for their interest, and you are letting them to do that. They are just playing with you and having their pleasure out of it. Be single for a few months, and you'll easily see who loves you most and for whom you have most feelings. Stay away from everyone of them, avoid them, and you'll see how they are reacting.
2006-07-12 20:41:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First take him to psychiatrist than dump both of your ex to lead a peaceful happy life , start fresh .
2006-07-12 20:40:54 · answer #10 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋